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Welcome to Internet dating:

Not so long ago, in a world without computers, your options to meet people were limited to chance or to family, friends or acquaintances setting you up. I have found that most friends hesitate to set you up, just in case it won't work out. Chances are you're on your own to meet someone and the prospects of identifying potential dates are somehow slimmer once you become single. I'm certain you have the impression there are more people who look like potential dating options for you when you're dating.

Most of us are working and have a busy life, so where do we meet Mr. or Ms. Right? "Forget the bars!" people say. This is why Internet dating is so popular today and growing all the time. I’m going to show you what I believe to be the pros and cons of Internet dating and give you some advice on how to make this experience more enjoyable and successful.

I recommend Internet dating if you have exhausted all other avenues. You have asked your friends, been to clubs, joined the gym, etc. Many people frown at the thought of Internet dating. They assume you are desperate, that it’s dangerous, unnatural, and individuals on dating sites are perverts and just looking for sex. Well, like everywhere else, these weird people do exist and you have to keep a look out for them. Talking about the experience, I find there is little difference between meeting someone through an Internet dating site or by simply meeting for the first time in person by "accident" or by "chance". Let’s compare the two scenarios.

By meeting someone unexpectedly, by "accident" or by "chance", you have the opportunity to immediately see if there is any chemistry between you two. One advantage of this situation over Internet dating is the physical aspect of the experience. You can hear the voice, see the smile, determine if there is a physical attraction. From my experience, I find the two scenarios similar, however, I believe it is even better through Internet dating, and let me explain why.

So, you meet someone in a grocery store, and you start talking. What’s your name? Have any children? None. What do you do for a living? Engineer. Where do you live? In town. I go to the gym three times a week; never married and been out of a relation for the past year. Normally, it ends with a cell phone number or email address to keep everything safe. Then you say good bye and you are both on your way. Now was this encounter more trustworthy, true and safe than meeting a person you met online? I believe not. You just met a stranger in a store and he/she may be married with three kids, on welfare, homeless, have another name, not unlike the person you meet online. This person could also be a pervert, a liar, cheat, alcoholic, drug user etc. The reality is after this first "chance" encounter, you will know if you're physically attracted to them, but truly not very much more.

Let's take a look at the same conversation through Internet dating asking all the same questions. Guess what, all the answers are the same. There is no difference in information. Internet dating is not so far out there as you may think. It’s just like meeting someone in the street but in this case, you meet them online.

One great advantage of Internet dating is that by reading a person’s profile you often find out much more about the person than you could ever get during a short chance encounter. You can find about what they like to do, where they’ve travelled to, if they have children or not, their general income (if they are willing to divulge it) their education level, etc., and also what they are looking for in a relationship. In my case, one of the most important things that I was looking for in a profile was how well the person expressed themselves. Did they give one word answers? Did they write eloquently and with style and personality? The way a person communicates through writing is sometimes an indicator of how they communicate in general and -if you read carefully- also gives you an instant view of their personality, beliefs, intellect level etc.