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Having thought a little during the pause, the father’s friend said:

– I believe that all events are connected and not accidental. “When the student is ready, the mentor will appear soon”. I agree to try my hand at teaching you: it will be unusual, but, I’m sure, invaluable experience.

Turning to the companion and looking into his eyes with determination, Iwas said:

– Farooq, I’m ready to become your mentor. But on conditions that you will devote your time to our learning, because we don’t have much time, but, on the contrary, there is a lot of information, you need to learn.

Not waiting for the end of his companion’s speech, Farooq, being not able to keep his temper in check, said loud and clear:

– I agree.

– Okay, but it’s enough for today, my dear friend. I need a couple of days to settle some issues and one day to prepare for our study. Thus, we will meet at the same place at the same time in 3 days. And here is your first task: every evening do an exercise called “Day evaluation”.

The goal of this exercise is to put your day and your emotions, both positive and negative, into perspective. And not only to put into perspective, but to understand, what has caused them.

Now make an evaluation of this day with 2 questions: what did you like from today and what did not. Write down the answers.

The first question helps to focus on the positive aspects of the day and to find out what brings you joy and inspiration. The second one is dedicated to your weaknesses, that you need to improve.

At the beginning you can write down only one thing for each question. The secret of healthy habits training is to make them simple: as a result, one gets an impression that developing them is much easier than wrestling with your conscience. It is a good strategy for getting into any new habit. With the growth and learning strategy the amount of things will be increasing, but the time, spent on the exercise, will de decreasing. So, are you ready?

– Yes, I want to make evaluation of this amazing day as soon as I can! – said Farooq.

– Well, then I’m going to say you goodbye. I still have some business for today, and you start your exercise. See you in 3 days at the same time!

Having said goodbye, Farooq started the exercise.

So, what did I like from this day?

– The decision to change his life.

– The meeting with Iwas, who has become his mentor.

– The first task, with which he copes easily and with pleasure.

What did not?

– Almost rejected the Iwas’s offer to study because of the fear of doing poor job.

What should be done to improve this situation?

Act, in spite of fear. As the saying goes, the best antidote fear is an action.

– Tried to put the task off and do it in more reasonable conditions, that is after sleeping, relaxing, having a bite and setting my mind on doing it.

It’s an excuse. With such an attitude I will never do this task or the conditions, in which I will do it, will be the same or worse.

What should be done to improve this situation?

Start doing the exercise as soon as possible, not paying attention to any unconstructive doubts. Where inconvenient to do the whole exercise, I need to do a part of it, so I won’t put it into cold storage.

– My doubts: “Is it right to start this training?”

“Should I spend my time on it?” Because if we start our training, I’ll need to do different tasks in the evenings, but sometimes I just want to rest and do nothing.

What should be done to improve this situation?

Change the mood on “the proof of the pudding is in the eating. if it doesn’t help, I still will be the winner, because I’ll get invaluable experience.