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You may think you have a handle on lovemaking, but after you announce to the world that you’re trying to have a baby, it may seem like all the folks in your life suddenly morph into Dr. Phil.

Now that reproduction is fodder for morning news programs and countless blogs and Internet sites, more people have more sound bites and nuggets of wisdom to offer you and your partner than ever before. If your mother tells your partner she shouldn’t be eating that grilled hamburger because the Today show said so, or if she tells you that you really should be wearing boxers rather than briefs, you may find yourself at wit’s end before you even make it to the bedroom.

If your loved ones start interfering or offering advice that you don’t want, thank them for their excitement and interest, but reassure them that you have the situation under control. Remind them that people have been having babies forever and let them know that being bombarded with all this information — be it from them, the TV, or the newspaper — stresses out you and your partner, and that can decrease your chances of conception.

Not all unsolicited advice is about the act of having sex. Some people may think you’re too young or too old to have kids. Your parents may chime in about how expensive kids are, implying that you’re not financially ready to have a baby. Perhaps your stressed-out brother (and father of three) tells you to enjoy your freedom while you still can.

Whether somebody thinks you’re too immature to be a father because you still play video games or that your wife’s job is too demanding for her to be a mother, remember that the only voices that matter are yours and your partner’s.