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Rules of power for women: power through a clear attitude
// By Isabel Nitzsche

If women are trapped within the system of validity hierarchy, they must take personal criticism to heart. On the other hand, when they realize that the rules of a domination hierarchy are valid, they can think about how to get to the next point.

Whoever does not want to be liked becomes more capable of acting

Or simply put, the men do not have to like a boss, not as a woman, not as a person, they must and should only respect them in their position. This is something completely different.

When you take this angle, you will notice that you become much more effective. It is precisely what the other side is consciously or unconsciously trying to avoid.

Turn off the competition

Men are also fighting for rank, but with different means and arguments. This is not noticeable to women by their factual orientation but often not at all. They first register the supposedly personal attack on themselves.

But the personal thing about it is above all that the men do not even want to let a potential competitor play along. That's the best solution from their point of view. And it also often works because the women are insulted, scared, angry, and leave the terrain to the men.

This is how the anti-odds argument works

A good method, the men notice, and so on. The anti-odds argument also works like this: "Then bad women would come, oh dear, oh dear." And that, although the quota only applies to the same qualification.

But the game works, high-ranking women even express themselves publicly: "No, we don't want the quota." Instead of saying, "Nice try, I know what I'm doing anyway."

The game has worked well so far

For the men, the game has worked well so far. Even though it has been the subject of intense debate lately, there is no law that would dictate quotas for companies.

It is interesting that women are so dependent on the critical eye and constantly wait for confirmation, instead of giving it to themselves first and to insist that by good self-marketing their counterpart sooner or later share this impression.

The clearer the attitude, the easier a high status

And, don't worry, cleverly expanding your own spectrum of behavior does not mean “masculinizing”. It is important to always reflect on your own role and to analyze the playing field as a system. Tom Schmitt and Michael Esser, authors of the book Status Games, know: "The clearer the inner attitude, the easier it is to achieve a high status."

Male executives are more likely to be at the top, organize and control the work of their employees and arrange. Women, on the other hand, tend to organize their work as a circle, as well as with their employees, to implement them and usually maintain a team-oriented communication style.

Female communication style: Good for the company, but bad for the career

According to their holistic approach, women favor joint project discussions and attach great importance to the dialogue with their employees. The communication can flow directly between the individual task areas and is not limited to arrangements from above.

Such a female communication style has many advantages for the company - but has so far only been recognized in very few cases when advancing. Above all, women fail because of a lack of “promotion efficiency”, says Bonn management trainer Monika Henn.

Lack of ascent efficiency

She found in an empirical study that male executives differ from their employees in assertiveness and resilience, while female executives do so in flexibility and high team orientation.

These features are helpful for a leadership role. However, whether in self-marketing, networking, strategic and political considerations or power struggles, women are more backward than men.

Male competition orientation

This hinders the direct way upwards. Competition-oriented behavior is already familiar to men from their games in childhood. They are, from a small point of view, practiced to establish their rankings and to present victory and independence.

Through their communicative behavior, men in the different groups, in which their professional life takes place, constantly establish the social hierarchy in the power system. It is clarified who is the stag, who is the second, third, etc. For most men, though an unconscious, yet familiar process.

The power code is simply not familiar to them

Women, on the other hand, are often alien to this mechanism. As sensitive as they are to interpersonal behavior as a rule, it does not know what is going on at this level. The reason is that the code is simply unfamiliar to them.

In order to recognize hierarchical structures, field observation helps according to the motto: “respect but not fear of top dogs”.