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Introduction

The “coming out” process for any LGBT person, especially to one’s family, is often a very traumatic experience. What is often overlooked is the trauma visited upon the family, especially on the unsuspecting and now overwhelmed parents.

Mom and dad are very often confronted with a whole new world that they previously knew little or nothing about. Although suspicions of same-sex orientation may have lurked in the background, they are often quickly dismissed; the possibility is too dire to entertain. At least that’s what is often thought.

There are many voices of concern out there urging many different approaches. So, where does a parent begin? To whom or what can a parent turn for help? How can the proper information be separated from the harmful or just plain ignorant? These and other questions will be answered as we move from section to section. I write from the perspective of a straight pastor of over 40 years who has been confronted with just about every situation a parent can experience, including counseling dozens of parents and hundreds of gay children. You may feel that no one else has gone through what you are experiencing right now, but you will soon discover there is much company for you with people who have gone on before.

This book is intended to assist parents who are genuinely trying to understand their gay children. If you are such a parent, the sooner you get involved with your child with understanding and support, the better the outcome will be for all concerned. You don’t have to have all the answers, or any for that matter. All you need to begin is to acknowledge that your child is no different today from the one you brought into the world, that your love is the same and continues, and that nothing can change that. If you truly believe this, the rest of these sections will help you. If you can’t affirm your love for your child, get counseling immediately; studies show that suicides are a greater risk following parental rejection. I don’t tell you this to make you feel worse, it is a fact that you need to know and consider.

Over the next several sections, these are the subjects we will look into. We will take them one at a time.

You are not alone

What is the LGBT(QIA) thing?

Your child is just fine

You are not to blame

Will my son get HIV/AIDS?

What if my child is Transgender? Navigating the intersexual world

The Bible doesn’t condemn your child

Marriage is a good possibility

You still may have grandchildren

The Anti-gay Industry

Great resource for more help and understanding

At the end of almost every section you will find a link to a video or article that will offer further explanations and insights from authorities in the field or people going through similar experiences as yours. Just copy the link and transfer it to your online device.

If you take advantage of the support available to you now, you may never have to face the worst fate for a parent, as explained by Mary Lou Wallner (to whom this book is dedicated) in this 5 minute video.

http://youtu.be/ycbHnPhw8VQ