Taming Your Outer Child

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Susan Anderson. Taming Your Outer Child

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PRAISE FOR TAMING YOUR OUTER CHILD

“This book will be an enormous help to anyone looking to let go of past disappointments and self-recrimination and get on with the essential work of healing, building boundaries, and acquiring the skills to reach your goals. I hope you will read it and do the exercises it provides.”

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Once you can separate feelings from behavior, your Adult Self can finally deal with Outer Child, and not just the isolated embarrassing incident, but the overarching personality dynamic that embodies your storehouse of defense mechanisms, repetition compulsions, personality tendencies, impulsive behaviors, habits, quirks, and knee-jerk reactions. You’ll deal with these behaviors as part of an interrelated phenomenon that acts in response to, but is separate from, your internal needs, urges, drives, and feelings. The latter you can finally validate, cherish, and love. In fact, you’ll find that developing a strong emotional connection to your Inner Child is what prevents Outer from galloping away with your life’s mission.

Reading this chapter may already have given you a few ideas about your own Outer Child’s more prominent traits. In the next chapter I’ll introduce you to tools for taking an inventory of them—including some of the more difficult to observe behaviors and the emotional triggers that set them in motion. You will find that in taking your Outer Child inventory, what would normally take hours of morose soul-searching is an easy empowering task that propels you forward.

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