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Toni-Marie Taherian. From Me To We
From Me To We. A relationship guide, to finding love for women who have the courage to ask for direction. Toni-Marie Taherian
Dedication
Acknowledgments
INTRODUCTION
HOW LOVE BEGINS
Is He in Search of Miss Perfect?
Fascination with the First Love
Unconditional Love
How to Make Him Fall in Love
Barriers To Finding Love
WHY LOVE ENDS
Create a Lasting Love
Moving Through Uncertainty
Why He May Want to Break Up
When You Should Break Up
THE SEARCH FOR MR. RIGHT
Pinpoint What You Want
Find Out What He Wants
Where Is Mr. Right Hiding?
How to Tell if He Is Interested
How to Gauge His Interest
Learn the Art of Listening
WHAT DRIVES HIM?
The Dreamer
The Whiner
The Explorer
The Judgmental
The Attention Seeker
The Child
The Conqueror
The Provider
The Spiritualist
The Sensualist
The Powerful
THE POWER OF FIRST IMPRESSIONS
The Importance of Image
Self-Love
Confidence
Beauty Is in the Eye of the Beholder
Be Feminine in Appearance
Use Body Language Effectively
The Effect Of The Eyes
The Effect Of The Voice
The Way Your Body Moves
The Power of a Smile
Appeal to His Senses
Have an Interesting Sense of Style
The Environment
The Scent
The Music
BREAK DOWN HIS RESISTANCE
Create Temptation
Enjoy the Process of Dating
Accept Him For What He Is
Friend to Lover
Become an Interesting Conversationalist
Be Both Similar and Different
Independence and Detachment
Create a Need to Fulfil
Use Playfulness and Laughter to Draw Him In
The Charmer's Strategy
Make Him Feel He Is in Control
PLAY HARD TO GET TO INCREASE HIS INTEREST
Ask for What You Want
How to Become His Priority
Play Hide and Seek with Him
Let Him Compete to Get You
Make Him Jealous
REMAIN A MYSTERY
Use Surprise to Keep Him on His Toes
Use Language to Create Mystery
Mysterious Writing
Be Indirect - Imply, Suggest and Hint
Mix Qualities
Mix Feminine and Masculine
Mix Pain and Pleasure
Mix Kindness with Criticism
Mix Hot and Cold
Mix Saint and Devil
Mix Sexy and Innocent
Mix Strength and Weakness
HOW YOU MAY BE PUTTING HIM OFF
Insecurity
Desperation
Neediness
Being Too Nice
Social Awkwardness
Negative Behaviour
Impatience
Controlling Behaviour
Aggressive Behaviour
Taking Advantage
Talk Is Cheap
TYPES OF WOMEN WHO ATTRACT MOST MEN
The Appeal of the Free Spirit
The Appeal of the Vulnerable Childlike Woman
The Appeal of the Charmer
The Appeal of the Charismatic
The Appeal of the Object
The Appeal of the Madonna/Whore
CONCLUSION
REFERENCES
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This book is dedicated to my parents who know the meaning of true love, and have made me strive to reach this ideal in every one of my relationships. When I realized how far I have drifted from my ideal, my father taught me the importance of seeing reality in it’s true form. I am forever learning on this continuing journey of life, and hopefully I can transmit those lessons learnt, to those who can most benefit from it. I also would like to dedicate this book to a special friend, who inspired me to look into this beautiful subject, and share those insights with you.
We can’t help ourselves. All those fairy tales leave us brainwashed at a tender age, and the one thing we aspire to is the ‘happily ever after’. The normal process is forgotten; two people searching for each other and there is a challenge to overcome. Someone or something inevitably standing in the way of true love. Cinderella had the ugly stepsisters and the evil stepmother. Snow White also had an evil stepmother, who fed her a poisoned apple causing her to fall into a deep sleep. Sleeping Beauty also fell asleep, because of the interfering wicked witch, who cast a spell on her. The fairy tale takes us on a journey through the difficult times to make the pleasant times even more intense. However, the fairy tales do not go into much detail about the ‘happily ever after’. The stories do not speak of the compromise, nor of the differences and challenges that we are up against. The desire for the ‘happily ever after’ has become part of our psychological makeup and often leaves us feeling disappointed.
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Who is that woman sitting over there? She draws him in with her sweetly-scented perfume, having mastered the hair flip and exposing the nape of her neck, standing with her back tantalizingly close. She periodically refreshes her well-applied eye makeup to enhance her batting eyelashes in order to mesmerise him. Yes, if you are in any doubt, I am talking about the blessed one with the stunning good looks, the body to die for, a refreshing sense of humour, a lavish sense of style, all the wealth one would hope to acquire, intelligence that leaves a man dizzy, and charm that is undeniable and highly irresistible. Of course anyone who is lucky (or unlucky) enough to set eyes on her either wishes to walk in her shoes or is dazzled and obsessed by her mere existence, imagining what it would be like to be in her presence. While she takes a sip from her Meloncello cocktail, she gives him a knowing glance, that she is able to extract every drop of his soul. He tries to resist her as she smile at him, though his thoughts and yearnings drift helplessly into a different continuum altogether.
So many women want to have it all, to possess the ultimate power to capture hearts and souls. Men tend to be drawn to women who are easy to talk to. They are attracted to warm, sweet, intelligent, energetic and self-confident women who are considerate, understanding, funny and honest. But is absolute perfection attractive? Men are less attracted to women they see as perfect than to those they see as almost perfect, those who make small mistakes. A beautiful face is delightful to look at, but perfection can be slightly intimidating. A mole can be a sign of beauty because it makes someone seem more human and lovable. When a person with a lot of merit shows a weakness, this person becomes more likeable. Therefore, embrace your imperfections to elicit tender feelings.
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