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There are male and female backstabbers, and they are not confined to the office environment. Backstabbing is a trait that is found in people with an inferiority complex who say ‘yes’ when they really want to say ‘no’, and who find themselves utterly unable to voice their opinion when they disagree with someone else, especially if they regard this other person as being of a higher rank than they are.

The Backstabber will be sweet as pie as long as they are speaking to another person, but as soon as he or she has left the room, backstabbing commences. The Backstabber’s whole facial expression changes in a split-second from a bright, beaming smile to an angry or disdainful frown and then he or she either begins to gossip about the absent person or, at worst, to maliciously slander them.

Backstabbers use an indirect method of letting off steam when they feel that they are under someone else’s thumb. It is an immensely destructive way of dealing with others because all backstabbing does is to poison the atmosphere and make the Backstabber more and more uptight, without actually doing anything about the problem.

Backstabbers in the office will accept more and more work from their superiors, although they know that they will not be able to cope with the workload. Backstabbers feel that they are being exploited and treated badly, and they resent it bitterly. Their solution to this problem it to go round and tell everyone in the office what a lousy boss they have. The only person who will never hear any complaints from the Backstabber is the only person who could do something to solve the problem – the boss.