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No one gets tired of being.

The aid is an act in accordance with nature.

Do not tire of receiving or sending it.

Marcus Aurelius

We people act rather strangely in the field of prayer, or simpler in asking.

We would like to live different lives, we have desires, dreams, hopes, objectives, goals or purposes, the desire to have more or better, but, despite all this, we do not ask, neither to God, nor to ourselves.

It seems that what concerns improving our existence makes us feel ashamed, ashamed of having more than others, ashamed of succeeding where others fail, ashamed of flaunting riches in the face of a world full of poverty.

On the one hand, we want to show to our neighbors that we can afford the latest version of smartphones, the latest generation of expensive TV or expensive vacations, that we often use various forms of financial support to obtain them; on the other hand, however, we feel uncomfortable as soon as we are in front of ourselves, instead of our neighbor or those who like us, display such affections, have the poor, the beggar, the wanderer on turn.

In front of our neighbor we are in competition not to make us be labelled as poor, in the depths of ourselves, but we feel guilty for having more than others.

We are always wearing these our blame and shame, although not always in the sunlight; but always as our companion of life who always tries to judge and degrade us, especially whenever we desire more for ourselves.

So it happens that we are just content; instead of wanting, for example, to earn millions of euros, we just have to get rid of the payouts that suffice to pay mortgage, eat, some fun and sparing some money; instead of aspiring to high peaks, we are just content to be just above sea level.

And, instead of looking at the summit of the mountain that we see in front of us as a spur to conquer it, to want to explore it, to see what treasure can hide us, we look down towards those who are at the foot of the mountain and who do not have the ability to climb.

On the one hand we believe we have a kind of compassion towards them, on the other hand, we actually have the insane fear of being like them, of rolling back down the mountain again and not being able to get back.

Do not be able to climb it again, because by now we are not as young as when we climbed it the first time, now we cannot any longer to make those sacrifices served to get to where we have arrived; we cannot any longer do it because full of people who aspire to climb and that we will therefore not have enough space to emerge, to pass further, or, even simpler, not able because we are already there without doing anything, to be born more fortunate than others.

The crisis that has been created in the industrialized Countries is the tangible and evident proof of this fear; the suicides of those, who have found themselves from having so much to have nothing, show all the fears that I mentioned, the failure to manage to see opportunities.

We live in a world where since childhood we are being taught the message of avoiding selfishness in favor of others; for example, to share our toy with someone even if we did not want, to avoid shouting and certain types of behavior in favor of a common style or respect, to see us denied something because we cannot have everything from life.

But who decided that you can't have everything from life?

Let's not say that sharing with one's neighbor is not right, it would be lacking, but that must be a spontaneous evolutionary step for the child.

The child must want to do so because he understands by himself that it is right and it must not be imposed on him.

But this must necessarily first come from one's own selfishness.

Egoism is not wrong, on the contrary, it is the springboard for launching into altruism, it is necessary for the formation of self-love, an indispensable element of every person.

Selfishness is healthy, only its surplus is perverse.

First of all we need selfishness for survival, we are unique human beings and we have the right to live like any other person and any other living human being; and who will never do this work to keep us alive?

At the beginning of our life, when we are little and vulnerable, they are our parents who take on this duty, they are also happy because it is beautiful to have care of another life, especially if it has been generated by us.

This is altruism, but this happens not when we are children, but as adults.

As long as one does not become an adult, they are the parents who take care of survival, but gradually that the child grows, he begins more and more to have independence and, therefore, also full of responsibility towards himself and his own safeguard.

And, as adults, the burden of responsibility is completely in the hands of the person who, if he has followed a harmonious development of self-love, of healthy selfishness mentioned above, is fully developed.

But our society, on the other hand, shows and inexorably demonstrates that this is not the case for almost the entire population.

If, on the one hand, the survival instinct works at the level of impending danger, that is, soon pay attention to everything that could kill me quickly, then, for example, cross the road carefully to avoid being hit by a car, o avoid risky behaviors such as protruding from a terrace or eating visibly damaged food, on the other hand we have a whole series of behaviors of self-destruction of our body and ourselves on the social level.

This is an example of all of us, in order not to go into too much detail with so many examples, the habit of smoking or alcohol.

Perfect behavior completely against nature, because any creature in nature goes against its own instinct to preserve its own individuality or species.

Anyone, even children in primary schools, can understand that if such habits do not bring any benefit, but rather only more or less serious and invalidating diseases, up to death, they must be absolutely avoided. All this is perfectly understood by smokers or alcoholics, even though they are looking for excuses to avoid such an argument, such responsibility towards themselves, such as "I will have to die of something", or "even so much air is full of poisons".

But the self-evident truth is that it is better to avoid anything that approaches death, whatever makes me grow older, whatever makes me invalid in any way.

This is because nobody is happy when he finds himself unable to do something because he no longer has the strength or ability, nobody lives well if he is sick and anyone, however hard the hard, outlawed model of the old Western films, is terrified by the approaching death.

Yet this, like many other self-harm behaviors, is the norm in our society.

Why?

Because we fail to love our self, we have not been able to develop that healthy selfishness which was necessary and vital when we were children.

We did not succeed because everything around us helped to make sure that we lacked such of our self love, even our parents, our first and essential models, lacked such an amor of their own, because, like us, they underwent the same treatment, at the time of their childhood. And, the lack of self-love was the basis for all the rest of our problems that we have had since then, which then diversified from one person to another.

Therefore, someone chose to react with violence and became a criminal; someone decided not to face the situation, and at some point in his life, he found himself with attacks of anxiety and panic; someone else decided not to deserve anything, and he became an individual without dreams or hopes.

In the process of our existence, problems have diversified and everyone has dealt with them in a different way, but the common ground is this, the lack of love.

And the lack of love is filled by the opposite of love: fear, a word that unites too a whole series of different problems, different disorders, different ways of reacting.

If there is love for ourselves, there is security there, while insecurity is fear.

Wherever there is peace, serenity, joy and happiness, thanks to love, the lack of this, it becomes restlessness, pessimism, resignation, sadness, always and in any case fear.

The fear does not exist.

Fear, properly said, serves to our survival, therefore it is necessary; then I will not throw myself down from a precipice because the fear of dying will prevent me from dying, but then I should not even light the other cigarette, because fear connected to individual survival should prevent it.

On the other hand, being afraid of what might happen, that is, concern, is meaningless, especially if you do not have the power to change anything.

Therefore, to be afraid of an impending war, for example, doesn't carry anywhere, because it is not only something that is not within our reach, we can't do anything, it also ruins our actual existence and doesn't make us live peacefully; we spend time thinking about how to bind our heads in the event of a possible injury without realizing the uselessness of this attitude.

By this I do not mean not to be wise or cautious, not to make estimates or predictions before any action, all this is right; what I mean is that, once all the necessary measures have been taken, it is useless to continue to worry further.

In the case, for example, of smoking, something can be done, that is to say, stop smoking instead of being worried about his own health, you can stop, remove the tooth, remove the pain.