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When you enter into a relationship with someone interesting you do so because you are attracted to all the various qualities, both obvious and subtle, that they possess. If they are attracted to you in return it is because they find all of your qualities and attributes interesting and appealing too. At the foundation of your mutual attraction is a deep and abiding appreciation for the individuality that helps make you stand out from everyone else. When you understand this basic principle it is easy to see just how important your individuality is to the success of your relationship and why, therefore, it is essential that from the moment you meet a potential life partner you must be your individual self.

When two people move in together the truth about who they are becomes readily apparent. You can't pretend or hide your imperfections when you live with someone 24/7, 365 days a year. If you faked your way into your relationship from day one then the likelihood is your deceit will be exposed very quickly once you share a home together. Of course, you wouldn't want to be with anyone who doesn't love and appreciate you for who you are so it makes sense to express yourself honestly from the very beginning and before you say, "Let's move in together."

Of course, as human beings we can't help but put our best foot forward when we are in the romancing stage of any relationship. We do our best to hide our imperfections and place the spotlight on our best qualities. In most cases it is not that we've pretended to be someone else it is that we have pushed our partner's attention onto our best qualities as our priority. One great secret to a happy home is to continue to do this; keep putting your best qualities out there as your priority.

It doesn't mean you have to hide your bad qualities or imperfections; it means you should love and respect your partner so much that you will always make the effort to give to them your very best. Obviously sometimes you'll slip up, but that's ok. There's no such thing as a perfect human being and likewise there's no such thing as a perfection relationship. But there is such a thing as a great relationship. You helped build it by putting your best foot forward and it can keep growing stronger day by day the same way. In other words, express yourself honestly, be your individual self, and be the best you that you can be.