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Introduction

Why I wrote this book

I woke up one day a few years ago with chronic back pain. My back hadn’t felt good for some time, but there was no more denying it. It just wasn’t going away. I was having a hard time being positive while I was in pain, and it took everything I had to get through those days. I realized ultimately that it wasn’t about the pain itself, but more about what was happening underneath, inside me. Just like when a light on your car dashboard indicates a problem, it isn’t necessarily the dashboard light that is broken, but more likely something else “under the hood.”

There were some things in my life at the time that I had left unaddressed, and getting help for this pain was one of them. Finally, I could no longer let things stay as they were. I realized that I had been avoiding getting help for the back pain for a couple of reasons.

First, I was afraid of finding out something I didn’t want to hear, like that I had a tumor in my back, or a herniated disc, or a life threatening or debilitating illness. And like many people I know (and several people I am related to), I chose to simply do nothing about it instead.

The other concern was that I didn’t feel as though I had the extra money to pay for whatever the experts might find wrong or their prescribed course of treatment. As I examined this more deeply, I realized that I was playing an old story in my mind, which was that I didn’t have enough to do anything about it. Underneath this idea was the thought that I couldn’t have everything in my life be good all at the same time. If one area of my life was going well, it was inevitable that another part would be suffering—or so I thought. Then I fell in love with the woman who would become my wife.

In the midst of falling in love, I realized some important things. The first was that I wanted my best self to emerge. I didn’t want to bring anything less than into my relationship because I valued it so highly, and I wanted my best self to be a foundation of our relationship. I made a promise that I wanted to keep: that I would always bring my best self forth. Then I asked myself, how could I make this possible?

In thinking about other parts of my life, I feel that I have a proven track record of success. One of the key ingredients for this success is that I can make things happen if I know what I’m aiming at. The only downside was that in the past, I generally found that as I was able to create success in one part of my life, inevitably another part suffered. I didn’t like this idea that one part had to suffer in order for another area to flourish. It felt like a form of poverty thinking; that somehow there wasn’t enough to go around. It reminded me of what I thought the world was like when I was growing up, and I decided that I had had enough.

I hypothesized what might happen if every part of my life was flourishing: win-win in all areas. And as I imagined it, a picture started to emerge, and I liked it. I began taking steps one at a time to address the parts of my life that weren’t feeling balanced, that scared me, or were screaming for my attention.

I soon realized that things were shifting quickly in a positive direction. I found that the things I had been scared of were losing power, and my life was quickly starting to look like the one I had envisioned for myself. (I think that having someone else in my life that wanted to live the same way helped.) Then I started incorporating more and more of these tips and practices into work with my coaching clients and workshops, and finally created a workshop outline entitled “You Can Have It All.”

People often aim at improving one area of their life, say their finances, at the expense of another area, like their relationship. My goal with the workshop was to see what could happen if we aim at the entire picture of our life at the same time. Could we step into having it all? I believe the answer is yes.

I have been living these principles and sharing them with others for as long as I have known about them, and as long as they remain effective tools, I will continue to share them. At the beginning of this year, I made a pact with myself that I began to share with others:

No more settling for “meh,” “not bad,” or “just ok.” Let's seek to create space for more joy, better health, better sex and more abundance in all areas of our creative and personal lives. I wish you all of your wishes, and my hope is that this book will show you how to manifest them all.

And so it is…