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Before you know what men are looking for, you should know what they are not looking for.

These are the things that will turn off a man both from you and from a relationship.

Therefore, this is our first section, because you should know what NOT to do first.

If you notice any of the following traits, ladies, work to break these habits and traits because they are relationship killers.

The big comparison

Never, ever under any circumstances compare him to other men, especially your ex-boyfriend or ex-husband.

After all, how do you feel when he compares you to another girl, probably pretty angry, right?

So do not compare him to other men. When you do so, you are hitting him where he is most vulnerable, his ego.

Here a nag, there a nag, everywhere a nag-nag

The man in your life is a grown-up, not a child, so why on earth would you nag at him as you would a child?

There is no reason to do so and this is one of the fastest ways to have him head for the hills.

If you ask him to do something, give him a time frame and refrain from reminding him about what he has promised to do, until after the time frame has passed, never before.

I like you, but you need to change

Ladies, nobody is perfect, including men. You know how they are when you met them, so why expect them to change totally, just to please you.

There are plenty of women out there who will not push their own agenda upon a man; so by doing this to him, you are pushing him out the door.

If something needs to change, you talk about it with him, not demand a change and if he really cares, he will work on it.

Part of being in a relationship is accepting each other, flaws and all.

Look at me! Look at me!

Vanity is one of the deadly seven sins for a reason; it can kill a relationship in the blink of an eye.

When you spend more time in front of a mirror than you do with your man, he will likely walk away.

Keep your ego and vanity in check, just as you would like him to do.

If you cannot say something nice, say nothing at all

When women are together, criticizing other women seems to be a hobby. Do not expect your man to play along.

Hold your tongue when you want to say something bad, especially about people you do not know, and are about to say something derogatory about their looks.

It makes you look like you are trying to build up your own ego by tearing other people down and it is very unattractive.

Turning into a private eye

It is understandable that if you are coming away from a relationship where you were cheated on and hurt that you are scared of a repeat offence, even if this is a new man.

That does not give you the right to turn into Nancy Drew and start snooping or questioning his every move. Snooping and being paranoid is just not warranted, ever.

Saran-wrap

Saran-wrap is a clingy plastic sheet that is used to cover leftovers; your man is not a leftover food dish, so there is no reason to cling to him.

He wants a girlfriend, not a hobble around his ankles, you do not have to go everywhere with him. Do not cling.

Making mountains out of molehills

Men are naturally stoic while women are more emotional.

However, when you go to pieces because he forgot to buy the right kind of milk on the way home or is home five minutes late, it will turn him off.

Learn to get over the trivial things without having a huge meltdown.

Lies

You do not want to be lied to, so do not lie to him. Simple.

Drawing a line in the sand

Relationships are about compromise, so when you draw a proverbial line in the sand and tell him it is your way or no-way; do not be surprised when he heads for the highway.

It is not all about what you want to do, share his interests as well. If you make things one-sided, he will be gone.