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I had worked with Sheila previously concerning matters of self-love and self-esteem. She had learned grounding and had begun opening her heart to herself. This was an important foundation for what was needed in the healing she then requested for her nine-year-old son, Nathan.

The first seven years of Nathan’s life were spent in a one-room cabin, and he was accustomed to sleeping in the same room as his parents. Sheila wrote that shortly before they moved to a larger home, it appeared to her that Nathan began to fear the dark and to fear his mother going to sleep before he did. She felt that sleep-aways from home were traumatic for him. After the move to a larger place, Nathan had his own room but continued to sleep in a bed beside his mother. It seemed to her that he continued to panic if he were not the first one to fall asleep, or at least fall asleep before his mother.

As I looked at the energy fields of Sheila and Nathan, I saw that Sheila’s energy was merged in with Nathan’s and that it was very unhealthy for both parties. I could see it was important that Sheila separate her field from her son’s, and I gave her the “Zip Up” exercise to do. Very quickly, she was able to perform it successfully and separate her field from Nathan’s during the day. I knew, however, that there was no way she could keep that up at night with Nathan sleeping in a bed right next to hers. And I could see that Sheila’s husband was not thrilled about the sleeping arrangements either. (This does not mean that married couples who have overlapping problems need to sleep separately in order to unmerge. This particular situation with mother and son required a physical separation.)

To me it looked critical that Sheila move Nathan into his own room at night, and that she do it in a very matter-of-fact way. I believed that with the separation of energy fields, he would no longer panic.

At first Sheila was reluctant and she simply moved Nathan’s bed further away in the same room. I saw this didn’t change the energy dynamic and that she still overlapped fields with him at night. I became adamant that she not waste another minute in getting him in his own room. Again, I believed that if she felt it were no big deal, moving Nathan to separate sleeping quarters should be fine.

To Sheila’s astonishment and relief, the whole move of Nathan to his own bedroom for sleeping took place without trauma at all. Once she understood the energy dynamic and took steps to remedy the situation, she was able to change the physical logistics without much ado. She sent me an e-mail shortly after saying:

“Nathan sure has responded positively to this healing. Not only is he feeling really good in his own room—it’s like a revelation . . . Last night he woke up about 2:00 a.m. and called out for me, stating that he was scared. I walked over to his bed, gave him a kiss, and told him I was going back to bed and would be in my room if he needed me . . . and he went right back to sleep! And this is the only incident of any fear. He hasn’t mentioned feeling afraid—which was practically a nightly ritual before—when he prepared for sleep.”

She wrote again later that Nathan now looked forward to bedtime in his own room and she was amazed at how effortless the change had been once she unmerged with his energy field. Previously she found Nathan completely resistant to sleeping in his own room.

The follow-up for a healing like this involves being sure that the self-esteem of the person who has learned not to merge is sufficiently in place. Sometimes when one makes a change like this, there is a tendency to feel guilty about not having done what was needed earlier. There might be worry about having caused harm once someone realizes how different the energy dynamic between two people can be when energy fields are separate. The understanding needs to be that we do the best we know to do in the moment, and when we know better, we do better.