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Foreword

Dr. Carmen Bovell is an expert in her field. She has spent more than fifty years in the field of early childhood engaging with, advocating for, and fostering relationships with young children and their families. Most of her years engaging in this work were with Head Start, a locally operated but federally funded program for young children and their families. Therefore, Dr. Bovell is an expert who is steeped in parenting information, parenting advice, and parenting advocacy and is by far the best person to write such a compelling account of what “real parents”—current, past (grandparents), and future parents—have to say about the subject.

Dr. Bovell has held positions both inside and outside of the classroom; therefore, this book and the research she conducted to birth this book required her to return to the basics…back to where it all started—with parents. As we all know, being a parent is the most challenging job that there is. It has been said repeatedly, “Parenting is the hardest job I have ever had!” Parenting is a mystery! Dr. Bovell’s book has taken the mystery out of parenting! In fact, she offers us an assist to help future parents and early childhood professionals serving young children and their parents. In this book, Dr. Bovell coins the term “intentional parenting.”

As an early childhood professional, I am familiar with the term “intentional teaching” coined by Dr. Ann Epstein (2014). According to Epstein, intentional teaching is planful, thoughtful, and purposeful (p. 1). Fundamentally, it means that teachers act with specific outcomes or goals in mind for all children for all developmental domains. In comparison, intentional parenting suggests that parents act with intention. Parents should be thoughtful, purposeful, and strategic as they parent their children with respect, responsibility, reciprocity, and restraint in their interactions with their children. In her book, Dr. Bovell declares that we need to “go back to basics and give priority to how we raise our children.” She further states that “paying attention to parenting practices in our society is not the only solution, but it is a critically important aspect of the problems we face in our society today.

When I read through the chapters of this book, I knew that it was timely and very special. I predict that this book will help a lot of parents. I am happy to be a part of it. When I read the interviews from current parents, grandparents, and future parents, I hear authentic values and beliefs from them. I am excited about getting this book in the hands of a new generation of parents. As a parent and a grandparent, I find the book helpful as I coparent my grandchildren with their parents. This book is about parenting with a purpose! Parenting with the values of respect, responsibility, reciprocity, and restraint is a winning strategy.

Dr. Bovell does a wonderful job of laying out the Four Rs of Parenting and their impact on parenting. Parenting is more challenging today than ever before, but Dr. Bovell addresses how the Four Rs of Parenting can help by going back to basics, as she says so eloquently.

I think this book is critically important, bringing much-needed attention to the mystery of parenting. I hope that parents will read the words of the different parents in these pages and have a powerful standard for parenting for the rest of their lives. This book will help parents as they deal with how to raise their children. In the end, what’s most important in life isn’t going to be how much money you make, how many material things you own, or how many sexual conquests you have. It’s going to be the way you raise your children. They are a reflection on you.

Dr. Marsha Carter McLean

Early Childhood Consultant, Trainer, Mentor, Coach

Building Blocks Learning

http://www.building-blocks-learning.com

Foreword

Dr. Carmen Bovell’s book, The Four Rs of Parenting: Conversations with Parents, Young Adults, and Elders, is a timely addition to the literature of child-rearing which, as we know, comes with no instructions. Oftentimes, parents bring up their offspring the way they were raised. However, in some cases, parents are determined to depart from tradition, especially if their experiences were traumatic. Regardless of this, experiences deep in their subconscious sometimes surface when they least expect it, causing them in some cases to essentially “become their parents.”

The author’s questions, based on what she terms the four Rs—respect, responsibility, reciprocity, and restraint—elicit cogent responses from forty-two parents, adults, and young adults that many can relate to. These interesting, practical responses reflect the views of the respondents who vary in age, and although many of the adults are old-school, some acknowledge changes that they have made while parenting in the twenty-first century. It is also heartwarming that the young adults interviewed demonstrate a depth of thought that spells progress for the next generation.

Overall, the responses emerge from places of deep consciousness and highlight the challenges we all face when bringing up the next generation. This book is not meant to be a blueprint, but it can function as a guide for those on their parenthood journey.

Dr. Carmen Barclay Subryan

Retired Faculty, Howard University

Published Author

Acknowledgments

My sincerest thanks to the parents, young adults, and elders whose willingness to be interviewed and wholeheartedly share their thoughts and experiences made this book possible. Thanks also to my son, Marlon Bovell, for his patience and tireless efforts in assisting me with the technical aspects of securely saving the oral and written transcripts of all interviews and formatting the first draft of the book. Finally, a million thanks to Cyndi Mercado, professional transcriber, who made it possible for me to utilize all interview recordings by transcribing those that were difficult for me to convert to print.