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Muhammad Ali, Fred Astaire, Beethoven, Bill Clinton, Margaret Thatcher and Oprah Winfrey.

The common theme here is the bundles of energy that sustain prime ministers and presidents and artistes. Plus, there is a perseverance and unstoppable momentum about them. Whirlwinds in their own right, I suspect many of these greats nevertheless needed to wait and allow the Sacral energy to build before releasing themselves into full flight. And I would love to know how much gut instinct played its part in the decision-making of Thatcher and Clinton!

If you are a Generator, you represent 37 per cent of the world’s population and appear as someone with enough power to raise the dead. Your energy turns heads when you enter a room. You’re viewed as capable and unflagging. I bet you’re someone who rolls out of bed, cooks breakfast, drops the kids off at school, goes to work, gives your all, fixes other people’s stuff, works out at lunchtime, impresses the boss some more in the afternoon, goes home, does the laundry, fixes the dinner, bathes the children, puts them to bed then turns to your partner – and collapses in a heap. No one, except other Generator types, can hope to keep up with you.

The problem is that you can arrive at the end of your days feeling you’ve accomplished a lot but still feeling unfulfilled. That’s because, in the large part, you’ve just been going through the motions. Life is not just about ticking boxes and keeping others happy. Herein lies the key to a Generator design: only engage with people and activities that resonate, otherwise you’ll discover the flip – side to your type and become the pure couch potato who has given up, exhausted with life and fed up trying. Or you can become someone who is wiped out, prone on your bed, waiting for energy to be regenerated.

I would also advise everyone not to throw too much, all at once, at a Generator. However capable and energetic they seem, there’s only so much responding they can do. You’ll know they’ve reached their limit when their hands go up and they say: ‘Enough!’ Or when, feeling overwhelmed, they’ll simply ask for space.

As a parent of a Generator child, your task is to clue them into their gut response if you want them – and you – to avoid tears and frustration. There is no point in handing a child a trumpet and expecting them to master it if it doesn’t resonate with them. It’s a waste of time for dads to coach their boys in baseball or football if this fails to excite. Parents need to understand the distinction between their expectations for their children and what actually resonates with those children.

Likewise in relationships, it is asking for trouble to declare to your Generator lover that you’ve decided what you’re doing for the weekend and drag them off to the beach for a picnic without first sounding out their gut response. Partners should learn to ask Generators open – ended questions which start with queries such as: ‘Would you like to do this today?’ or ‘Do you think it’s a good idea if we…?’ Don’t worry about being ‘man enough’ and taking control; honour the Generator nature, not the ego. These people require consultation if your relationship is to work.

Over the years, I’ve met thousands of Generators and have tried to point out what makes them tick. Some of them get it straightaway, but far too many have fallen prey to conditioning and are slogging away as workhorses in situations where their unstinting efforts are taken for granted. It is indisputable that wrong people and projects will fly high because of a Generator’s input, but that’s not the point to their life. They need to find where their amazing source of energy is best directed and appreciated.

Geraldine is a hardworking mother with three delightful but extremely demanding children. She saw it as her duty to fulfil any demands they asked of her at any time. However, despite the pleasure she derived from this, she was exhausted and more than a little frustrated that she rarely had the time and energy for anything else. In a classic Generator situation, the attention and demands of others were depleting her. Since she could not afford a nanny, there seemed no solution and she gradually found herself getting more and more worn out.

At my reading for Geraldine, she had no idea she had such a bountiful Sacral. She just assumed she was being run ragged and operated on auto – pilot. When she learned that she had an infallible inbuilt indicator system capable of letting her know which activities worked best for her, she immediately began changing the way she lived.

She actually saw the importance of educating her children to approach her in a different way. Instead of being bombarded with ‘I want’ demands, she coached the children to ask open – ended questions which required a yes/no response. She was subtle enough to disguise this shift into a playful set of new rules. To her delight, the questions elicited a reliable gut response and now she only commits to the activities which resonate. This, in turn, has empowered the children to be more resourceful and they’re delighted to see Mum having more satisfaction – and energy – in her life.

I tell all Generators to acknowledge the blessing they are. As a Generator, you may well be harbouring fears that you’ll miss the boat if you don’t act now or that everything will go wrong if you don’t jump in and seize control. But trust your nature. Trust the person you born to be – and wait to respond.