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Before you become concerned about ‘being a burden’, read Veronica’s story below. In the 1980s, she changed her ‘three months to live’ with liver cancer secondary to a melanoma into more than nine years, living to see her children leave school. When she realized that her friends avoided telephoning her in the weeks following her diagnosis, perhaps through embarrassment or a lack of knowing how to help, she sent out this ‘round-robin’ letter:

Dear Friend,

Yes, I have cancer.

Yes, I have been told I have only three months left to live – but actually I AM STILL HERE and I need help!

If you would like to help me, the things I need or would really like are:

1. Flowers every week to cheer me up

2. My organic vegetables picked up each week

3. Money for my holistic therapy

4. Any information any of you can find out about alternative treatment for cancer, anywhere in the world

5. My children taken out while I meditate and visualize

6. A holiday in the Bahamas …

and on to a total of 20 wishes.

All 20 of Veronica’s needs and wishes were met, and she received letters filled with love and gratitude – such as:

Thank God you told us what you needed. We really wanted to help, but we had no idea what to do for the best.

Perhaps there are many people around you in your family, social and work circles who feel just like Veronica’s friends did, and who would be relieved if you would let them know how they could best help you! Let the people who care about you know exactly what help you need. Be specific about your needs, but do not get upset if they say no this time.