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Confident people love themselves, and, moreover, their self-love is not a well-hidden secret. It is obvious to the outsider that they care about themselves because their behaviour and lifestyle are self-nurturing. With this component of inner confidence children will, for example:

– retain their natural inclination to value both their physical and emotional needs and place these on an equal footing with the needs of others

– feel quite justified in their attempts to get these needs met; they will not inwardly torture themselves with guilt every time they ask for, or get, something they want

– be open in their demands for praise, reassurance and rewards and not try to manipulate you or anyone else into giving these indirectly

– enjoy being nurtured by others and become experts at learning how to do this for themselves

– feel proud of their good features and concentrate on making the most of these; they will not want to waste too much time, energy or money on their own imperfections

– want to be healthy and so will (eventually!) take heed of the wisdom about brushing their teeth, eating sensibly and keeping fit

– not knowingly persist in doing things that will sabotage their chances of success and happiness or shorten their lives