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Mood swings, insecurities, fears, ambivalence, impatience, and anger are all likely to surface during your pregnancy—often at unpredictable times. Why do you sometimes feel so out of control while you’re expecting?

-From Big Bertha’s Total Baby Guide

When a woman is noticeably pregnant, the normal rules of social interaction get thrown completely out the window. I learned this the hard way at about the seven-month point. Some women manage the earth-mother thing with extraordinary grace—they’re radiant, their swelling bellies draw the gaze as if they’ve been festooned with twinkly lights, they wear that joyful, wide-eyed expression that says: “Rejoice with me in this miracle, O my fellow humans! O frabjous day, callou, callay!” I, on the other hand, turned into a fat, ferocious, touch-me-you-die kind of creature, lank of hair and greasy of skin. I was the kind of pregnant lady you’d cross the street to avoid, like a barely-controlled pit bull out for walkies with a sneering, tattooed and pierced teenager.

This state of affairs didn’t happen overnight. I like to think that I started out as my usual pleasant and friendly self. It was all the attention I got that changed me. As soon as it was generally known that I was eating for two, (enceinte, expecting, a mother-to-be, a stinkin’ oven with a bun), and long before my delicate condition was visually inescapable, I began attracting comment from all and sundry.

“Congratulations!” said Donna-Lou Dermott, the egg-queen of Cedar Falls, whom I met as she was dropping off a couple of dozen at the General Store in the village. “I heard from your aunt Susan that you’re in the family way. Who’s the father?” My jaw dropped at the sheer nerve of the question, but I quickly learned that etiquette doesn’t apply if you’re knocked up. Donna didn’t wait to hear my answer, which was just as well, because I was choosing some words that don’t look very nice in print. “Oh, I sure hope you’re going to have it at the hospital,” she went on. “My first was a breech birth—hurt like hell and tore me open from front to back—but they have pain killers for that kind of thing now.” Then she smiled seraphically and sailed off, reminding me over her shoulder that I should eat lots of eggs over the next while.

That began it. Anyone on the planet who had ever had children accosted me on the street, in the FoodMart, the bank and the post office, sharing their horror stories, telling me what to eat and what not to eat, asking impertinent questions about my living arrangements and the identity of the father and about his reception of the news. By the time I was showing, as they say, absolute strangers had developed the curious habit of reaching out and patting me on the tummy. I learned to converse at a distance, out of arm’s reach. And eventually, I developed a Rottweiler approach—the permanent snarl, the “give me any advice and it’ll be the last thing you ever say” attitude.

My boyfriend and putative fiancé, Detective Constable Mark Becker, was the gentleman responsible for all this—at least in the biological sense. The moment of conception was far from blessed, though, having taken place at the tail end of a booze-sodden July evening. We were too plastered to bother with a condom—that’s the truth of it, and the later realization that I was hosting a little blastula somewhere in my gut was not exactly wonderful news. But as far as responsibility was concerned, Becker and I were equally culpable. I was the one directly and immediately affected, though, and because of this I didn’t actually let him in on the secret until I’d made my own decision about what to do.

Anybody who knows me will have gathered that I’m not big on babies. I have made no secret of my opinion that children should be caged until they’re fifteen, and after that, let out only occasionally for exercise and lessons in etiquette. I’m in my late thirties and have never in my life gone all soft and squashy at the sight of an infant. I do not make oodgy-woodgy noises and tickle the chins of Babes in Prams. I avoid McDonald’s restaurants and fun fairs and the Laingford Mall on weekends, precisely because there are always children present. One of the things I love about my remote cabin in the woods is that I am unlikely to come across any stray infants or toddlers while out walking in the bush.

You would be quite justified in wondering why the heck I didn’t opt for the medical solution to my urgent dilemma. I considered it very seriously, certainly. In fact, even now, I still wonder why I didn’t just call up Dr. Wright and ask her to book me for a D&C. But while I have always been willing to fight fiercely for every woman’s right to choose her reproductive moment, I found that my own choice in the matter had already been made for me by past experience. Been there. Done that. This time, I wanted to keep the T-shirt. You don’t want the details—stories of successful and trauma-free abortions are boring, and if you’re a Right-to-Lifer, you’d hurl this book across the room the moment you realized where the narrative was going. Simply put, I decided after much deliberation to go through with the pregnancy.

“Becker,” I said, “I’m going to have a baby.” (I have never been one to beat about the bush.)

It was the second week of October, and we were playing a Thursday night game of pool together at the billiard parlour in Sikwan. Becker’s presence had, as usual, cleared the hall of teenagers, who can smell a cop a mile away. We were alone in the small room at the back—Becker was working on a Kuskawa Cream Ale, and I was swigging Perrier. I’d explained my choice of beverage by saying that I was “cleaning out my system”, but the truth of it was that my body had rejected all forms of alcohol from the moment Becker’s wretched little drunken sperm buried its head in the pillowy wall of my private pickled egg. It’s as if every cell in me had immediately been put on High Alert by Head Office. “Attention all Polly-bits! We have a guest, whom you are all bound to treat with utmost courtesy. You shall desist at once from any unhealthy cravings. Lungs—we know you’re used to a shot of nicotine every fifteen minutes. Well, forget it. Gut—we know you’re trained to require a regular infusion of fermented material. Prepare for a new order. From now on, you’ll get milk and fizzy water, and you’ll bloody well like it.” The directive had nothing to do with me. And my sudden metabolic Puritanism played merry havoc with my mood, let me tell you.

I blurted out my news while Becker was lining up a shot. It was an easy one—fourteen in the corner pocket—and it was already an inch away, set up perfectly so he could come back for the eleven. After I’d spoken, Becker’s cue sort of slipped sideways, the cue ball popped skywards and landed on top of the eight, smacking it squarely into the side pocket and ending the game in my favour.

“Shit, Polly,” Becker said. “No fair—those are the kind of dirty tactics that can get you arrested.” He was laughing as he said it, reaching into his pocket for another loonie so we could play again.

“That wasn’t a tactic,” I said.

He went very, very still. “You’re kidding.”

“Nope.”

“You’re pregnant? You’re sure?” He was speaking carefully, now, moving towards me on tiptoe, as if I might be packing explosives.

“Yes, Mark. Positive.”

“And you’re positive you’re having it? You want it?” I appreciated that he didn’t knee-jerk all over me right away. I nodded, studying his face for signs of pleasure, pain, anger, elation—whatever. Signs of anything. He’d gone pale, and his expression was unreadable.

He let out a breath, a sigh, and sat down beside me, not touching, but close enough that I could feel his body heat. “How long have you known?” he said.

“Not long. It was that night we whooped it up at the Mooseview and took a taxi to your place afterwards.”

I could see him doing the math. “That’s ten weeks, roughly,” he said. “Is there still time to do something about it, if you wanted to?” I wonder how many times, and in how many places, that same conversation has played out between two people. It conforms to the Trite-but-True rule. Life’s big moments don’t come wrapped in poetry and profound phrases. We humans are predictable. I had known damn well that Becker would be hurt beyond measure by the fact that I hadn’t told him right away. He was nobody’s fool, my policeman, and it had taken him less than a half a second to understand that I had made a decision already, without him. Maybe it would have been different if we’d been married. But we weren’t.

“I think it’s legal up to about twenty weeks,” I said. “But it’s not an option I’m interested in.”

“I didn’t think so.”

“Is that what you want?”

“Polly, did you make your decision to have this baby on the spur of the moment?”

“Of course not! I thought long and hard about it—oh. I see what you mean. Sorry.”

“Yeah. Well. Give me some time, okay? Do you want another game? You won when I scratched on the eight.” We played another couple of games that night. During the first one, Becker played hard. He missed dozens of shots by over-hitting them. On a small bar-table, you have to caress the cue ball, encourage the kiss of the spots and stripes and woo the gentle tock and click and thump that comes from the perfect angle. You can’t shoot good pool mad. He calmed down and concentrated after that, and it wasn’t until the drive home that he brought the subject up again.

“This puts a new spin on the marriage question, doesn’t it?” he said. He had asked me to marry him back in August, just before we got distracted by our mutual involvement in a municipal corruption scandal. We arrived at some pretty clear answers in the scandal case, but the matrimonial issue was still open. I wore his ring on a chain around my neck, not on my finger, and I hadn’t given him an answer yet.

“I guess it does,” I said.

“You wouldn’t want to deal with a newborn in that cabin, Polly. You don’t even have running water.” That was the crux of the matter—the thing that was weighing on my mind far more than the unknown and alien things that were happening to my body. I live in a small, one-roomed building on the edge of a goat farm in rural Kuskawa. I’d moved there from the city to get away from noise and crowds and the corporate imperative, so I could pursue my craft, which happens to be puppet-making. I loved it there, and I didn’t want to move. Not for Becker’s sake, not for anybody’s, and certainly not for the sake of what in bleak moments I considered my personal parasite. It’s true there was no running water, but the well had performed its function perfectly for the five years of my residence. Granted, there was an outhouse, and it was a tad chilly in the dead of winter, but the pioneers had survived in spite of having to poop in an ice-house, and so had I. I didn’t need hydro—I had oil lamps and candles and never had to worry about whether or not I could pay the power bill. My lifestyle was perhaps unconventional, but it hadn’t done me any harm. In fact, I was far healthier living the way I did than I’d ever been in the city. I got lots of exercise, chopping wood and hauling water, I never caught colds, I ate vegetables grown right there on the farm, and in the dead of winter I kept my place at an even 16°C by running the woodstove at full bore. I wore lots of sweaters in the winter months, and in the summer I could wander around half-naked if I wanted to, provided the bugs weren’t too bad. We discussed these points in the Jeep, driving north through the October night.

The downside to all my arguments, as Becker rather roughly pointed out when we got to the farm, was that pioneer babies, reared in circumstances similar to mine, often had a nasty habit of dying.

The night was clear and cold, and there was no moon. We stood for a few minutes, looking up. There are times when that monstrous black expanse, splattered with stars like spilled Christmas glitter, is far too big and beautiful to be real. This was one of those times. Orion was beginning to creep into the sky—my favourite winter constellation—the big guy with his splayed legs and mighty sword. I’d always considered him the harbinger of comfort, of cosy evenings curled up in front of the fire with a hot toddy while a storm howls outside. Now he seemed threatening, his sword pointing to my cabin on the hill, reached by a path that would be thigh-deep in snow by mid-February. In February, I would be seven months pregnant. I would, I imagined, be heavy and perhaps bloaty, with thick ankles and shortness of breath. Would I able to strap on my snowshoes and haul groceries from the driveway of my landlord George’s farmhouse up to my place? Would I have the energy to chop wood for the fire and carry it inside?

Now we come to a thing about me, which some people probably know already. If someone tells me I can’t do a thing, if they suggest that I would be an idiot even to think about it—well, I generally decide there and then to try. The alternative chilled me to the marrow. What? Knuckle under to the North American happy-baby dream of plastic cribs and Pampers and formula and washing machines and automatic everything, inside a hermetically sealed and overheated box with carpets and padded corners, baby-proofed and squeaky clean? Expose my child (there, I’d said it) to the poisonous influence of TV, the stinking breath of air conditioners and the banal subliminal coax of FM radio? No fear. I’d rather raise it in a tent.

“Do you want to come in and say hello to Susan and George?” I said. My aunt Susan lived with George Hoito—the goat farmer whose cabin I rented—in the old brick farmhouse that had been there since the original homesteaders had got tired of roughing it in the cabin and perhaps losing babies down the well. Becker agreed to visit for a while, and we found Susan by the door with a “Did you tell him?” expression written across her face in bold.

“I know about it,” Becker said right away, thereby banishing any chance of a pleasant, uncomplicated chat. Within moments, Becker and Susan had launched into a gang-up-on-Polly session that lasted well over an hour. Becker wanted me to move into his condo in town and gestate in comfort and convenience. Susan, who knew me well enough to know that threats and pleading would fall on ever-more-stubborn ears, simply suggested that if the toils of winter at the cabin got to be a bit too much, I might consider moving in with them for the final month or two. George, who sat and smoked his pipe (in defiance of Susan, who told him it was not good for the baby), listened and watched me very closely.

“Polly will do what she pleases,” he said towards the end. “You know this is true, both of you, and while your alliance is encouraging, you will not be able to change her mind.” Susan and Becker had never really liked each other—Susan had an instinctive distrust of policemen, born of her activist history. To Susan, civil disobedience was a duty, not merely an option, and she had been arrested more than once in her youth. Becker said she made him uncomfortable. Aunt Susan was as close to a mother as I had—my parents having been killed in a car crash when I was ten. She could be fierce in my defense, could Susan, and although Becker had risen in her estimation after she was told that he wanted to marry me (rather than merely toying with my affections, as she called it), she was still perplexed as to why we were attracted to one another in the first place. Most of my friends seemed to wonder about that, actually.

Becker had by then, I suppose, cemented his position regarding the baby. Susan had worked him up into a froth of righteous indignation, which is not his best party-piece. If I wanted to have the baby, he said, he wasn’t about to be un-supportive. After all, he was the father. (Not “after all, I love you”, but then he would never say such a thing out loud in the presence of George and Susan. Heck, he still hadn’t managed to say that out loud in the presence of me.)

“I love being a father,” he said, referring to Bryan, his eight-year-old son from his first marriage, who lived with his ex-wife in Calgary. “And I’m willing to give our child everything I have, Polly. We’ll talk about this some more—soon, I hope, but I hope in the meantime you’ll think about someone other than yourself for once.” He kissed me before he left and told me he’d take me out to lunch in a day or two. But that didn’t happen, because the next day he received a phone call from his ex-wife, telling him to get his butt on a plane because his father (who lived in Calgary, too) had had a heart attack. I didn’t see him again for three weeks, by which time I was picking names and thinking about how much winter firewood I would need to keep my growing belly warm.