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The mode of the punitive parent usually also gets a name. When it is very clear which parent represents the punitive parent for the patient this mode can be given a name such as “your punitive mother [father]”or Mrs. or Mr. Johnson (which is the family name of the patient). Sometimes the patient may be unwilling or unable to actually give a name to the punitive parent out of a sense of (misplaced) loyalty toward that parent. When this is the case, the patient can refer to her “punitive side” or “the punisher.”

The punitive parent is taunting in her manner and has a tone of disapproval and humiliation (See ST step by step 5.20). She thinks that Nora is bad and deserves to be punished. The punitive parent states that Nora is showing off. When Nora fails, it is simply because she has not tried hard enough. Feelings are of little interest to the punitive parent and, according to this side, she uses them only to manipulate others. Should something go wrong, it is her own fault. In her mind, succeeding is dependent entirely upon her desire to succeed. If she really wants something, it will work out. If she fails or it does not work out, she obviously did not want it enough. Many BPD patients, perhaps even more than 50%, experience this mode as a voice, not (only) as thoughts. Often the voice is an echo of the caregiver that punished the child. Because there is usually no source misattribution (the patient is aware that it is her own mind producing the voice) we don't treat such a punitive voice as a form of psychosis. But according to some definitions, it can be considered a psychotic symptom. Because patients are often afraid of being considered “crazy” they are reluctant to tell therapists that they hear a voice when the punitive mode is activated. Therapists can therefore gently check how this mode is experienced, by explaining that many BPD patients experience this mode as a voice, others as thoughts, and many in both forms. As said, the way the mode is experienced has no direct treatment implications and therapists should not panic or start antipsychotic medication if their patients experience the messages of the punitive parent mode as a voice.