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We are not our conflicts. Resolving conflict begins with healing the unresolved strife each of us carries, often unconsciously. Much of our inner turmoil originates before birth; it begins with our mothers, fathers, grandparents, and passes from one generation to the next.

Everyone thinks of changing the world, no one thinks of changing themselves.

—Leo Tolstoy, novelist

Every human being has the opportunity to be a peacemaker, a contributor to personal, familial, and societal peace though resolving our internal discord. In this sense, conflicts are the silver lining of our inheritance from our ancestral bloodlines. But if we do not heal the inner unrest with our own family—our mother, father and siblings—we carry it within ourselves and into the world. If we’re in conflict (internal or external) with our mothers, we will eventually find ourselves in friction with women. The same happens with our fathers: if our discontentment is not healed, we will be at odds with men throughout our lives. Moreover, such unresolved conflicts create internal dissonance between the masculine and feminine aspects of ourselves. The pitched battles within us—sniper attacks on the opposing gender, running feuds with siblings, predictable patterns of gathering and losing resources—originated long before we were born in the actions, agreements and circumstances of our ancestors. In this lifetime, we either pass on these unresolved conflicts or contribute towards everlasting peace.

The Constellation Approach is an opportunity to discover true peace and happiness for ourselves, our families, and for those who will follow in our footsteps. The approach hinges on this simple view: Who we are and the conflicts we carry and aspire to resolve stem from our biological mother’s and father’s respective lineages. By exploring our parental bloodlines to uncover, understand, and integrate these conflicts, we can move forward with a sense of peace previously unknown to us.

If there is to be peace in the world, There must be peace in the nations. If there is to be peace in the nations, There must be peace in the cities. If there is to be peace in the cities, There must be peace between neighbors. If there is to be peace between neighbors, There must be peace in the home. If there is to be peace in the home, There must be peace in the heart.

—Lao Tzu, Taoist philosopher