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ALWAYS

TURNED ON

SEX ADDICTION IN

THE DIGITAL AGE

ROBERT WEISS, LCSW, CSAT-S

JENNIFER SCHNEIDER, MD, PHD

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First edition: 2015

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ISBN: 978-1-9404670-1-6

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Editor’s note: All the stories in this book are based on actual experiences. The names and details have been changed to protect the privacy of people involved. In some cases, composites have been created. Any resemblance to actual persons is entirely coincidental.

ADVANCE PRAISE

Authors Weiss and Schneider capture the essence of how rapidly technology is changing arousal and attachment patterns and what you can do about it. This is sure to become the book that both clinicians and lay readers turn to in order to sort out the complexities of how technology turns us on.

—Dr. Kenneth M. Adams, author of Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners and When He’s Married to Mom: How to Help Mother Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment and co-editor of Clinical Management of Sex Addiction

Always Turned On is packed with the most up-to-date information about sex addiction in the digital age. Its non-shaming, encouraging tone shows not only the addict, but also partners that recovery is possible. The resources and practical advice offered by the authors is excellent for addicts that are new to recovery and their partners.

—Dr. Stefanie Carnes, author of Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts, Facing Addiction: Starting Recovery from Alcohol and Drugs, and Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts

Weiss and Schneider are two of the world’s leading experts on how technology is shifting our understanding of human sexuality. Always Turned On provides insights and solutions for when sexual addiction meets the digital age.

—Dr. David Delmonico, professor of counseling at Duquesne University, and co-author of In the Shadows of the Net, Cybersex Unplugged, and Illegal Images

Always Turned On is compact, comprehensive and consistently engaging to read. It is now one of my “go to” books for guidance and just plain good advice about cybersex addiction. Great work; great resource!

—Dr. Pat Love, author, The Truth about Love: The Highs, the Lows, and How You Can Make It Last Forever

Sex, love and romance are delightful aspects of our humanity and a necessary part of the mating game. But what happens when these gifts of life become nothing more than a game somebody uses compulsively at the expense of deepening relationships or to medicate themselves? The authors do an excellent job of explaining how sex and romance can become addictive, why it is on the increase, and how to get back to healthy intimacy.

—Dr. Brenda Schaeffer, Licensed Psychologist, Certified Addiction Specialist, and author of Is It Love or Is It Addiction?

We dedicate this book to those who seek soothing and emotional solace through the abuse of pornography and casual sex. Our hope is that by reading this book, they may begin to find their way to genuine healing, intimacy, and connection.

We also dedicate this book to Jessica Grace Wing (1971–2003) beloved daughter of co-author Jennifer Schneider.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

Robert Weiss

First, I want to acknowledge the incredibly supportive management team at Elements Behavioral Health. David, Rob, Keith, Vera (and too many others to name here), you have set a platform in place for me. Our work together allows me to shine on every level and I am endlessly appreciative. Thanks to my ever patient husband Jon, who helps me see past today’s fleeting free moments to when we will have more time to share and enjoy our lives together. Thanks to Corrine Casanova, Tami VerHelst and Stefanie Carnes at the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals for making the publication of this book possible. Jennifer and I could not do what we do without the support of researcher, author, editor, Scott Brassart. A special shout out to Laura Maxey and Diana Lombardi of 5WPR who work so hard to make sure the world has a chance to hear and read these words of healing. And finally, to those who seek sexual healing and recovery read on, your answers await you and then you can start recreating your life as you wish it to be.

Jennifer Schneider

I would like to acknowledge the support of Marni Dittmar, Lucia Yao, and David Sims, librarians at the Tucson Medical Center Library. Without their willingness to send me dozens of references on short notice, I could not possibly have accomplished the research and writing that I contributed to this book. And thank you to Debra Kaplan for many relevant conversations as well as a review of this material. I would also like to acknowledge my late daughter Jessica Grace Wing, a big participant in the early days of the Internet revolution and one of the first volunteer “digital natives.” I wish she could have lived to see how the Internet has changed the world.