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“A better term for failure is feedback.”

— Jesse Wilson

Mothers are born entrepreneurs. As soon as we become aware of our ability to create something as perfect and stupendous as children, it becomes very easy to dream of our next magnum opus.

I have owned a handful of businesses in my career — some great and some stinkers. What I find most extraordinary is how similar the themes of success are, whether you are running a babysitting business or a national magazine. What is even more extraordinary are the women who do it with small children underfoot. What I hope to accomplish with this book is to teach you about my mistakes and show you my successes, and introduce you to some other successful mothers in business so that you can learn from them as well. It takes a community to raise a child; the same goes for a new business.

As women, we are born community builders. My intention in being an entrepreneur has always been to build a network of strong women who have aligned priorities. My intention as a mother is to be the primary caregiver to my children, and to be the great mother that my mom taught me to be. I think this has been one of my most successful strategies at driving whatever business I am working on; the fact that my network of women is continuously growing and our intention, as a whole, is to share with each other as well as share similar values as mothers.

As the founding editor of The MOMpreneur Magazine, I had the opportunity to read almost every new small-business or women’s interest book that came on the Canadian market — a lot of reading. What I found most disappointing was the fact that most authors were uncomfortable discussing their flops as well as their successes. It is when we are truly challenged and life becomes really difficult that the most important lessons are learned.

Did you know that you just bought a book on how to be successful as an entrepreneurial mom from a flop? Now before you run back to the store or try to figure out how to return this book to Amazon, let me reassure you that you will come away from this book with tools that will allow you to breathe easier and stand tall in times that test your resolve. The only way I know how to do that is to be truly honest about the challenges I have faced in my entrepreneurial career and to tell you how I have been successful while being the primary caregiver to my two children.

As I mentioned earlier, I am a true serial entrepreneur. The business I am most proud of today, however, is the one that seriously flopped — and I mean flopped with a capital F. My real passion for being entrepreneurial began while I was in university earning money on the side by working with children with severe neurological disabilities. For the most part, I worked with children with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). By the time I graduated, I had earned some respect in the community as a woman who cared about these children and advocated for the families’ rights in attaining funding from the provincial government. That client care, I believe, is what allowed my small consulting company to grow into an intervention agency that was 100 percent government funded as a provincial charitable organization within four years.

Unfortunately, being 100 percent government funded meant that I really only had one client; the government. There were no multiple streams of income to balance and stabilize my cash flow. Every decision made at the provincial level regarding these programs directly affected my business and yet was totally out of my control. Although it was some of the best work I have ever done, and some of the work that I am most proud of today, this business ended in a financial disaster that took years for me to recover from.

Although that failure was one of the most difficult times in my career and personal life, the lessons I learned from it have been some of the most important. When I look back at this company, I can now see certain key attributes that led to its failure. I am hoping these failures help you to understand your business better and how you can sustain your success for the long term.

Our first year of business was golden. We had cash in the bank, our incoming cash was flowing, clients were abundant, and my entire team and I were energized by the successes we were seeing in the treatment of our clients. We were able to see children learn everyday life skills such as communicating with others, playing with other children, and using the toilet — when other professionals had written them off as children who would never progress past the point of the developmental age of infancy. One of my most rewarding moments was seeing the mother of an eight-year-old child hear her son speak her name for the first time. As the population of newly diagnosed autistic children began to grow, the provincial agency that managed the funding for these programs began to restrict its spending in order to accommodate all children coming into that region.

When I look back, I see how our failure was inevitable from the beginning, although I certainly didn’t see it then. Because I saw the tremendous growth opportunities available to the agency, I began to grow the charity aggressively. I signed a commercial lease for five years with a personal guarantee on the contract. I did not spend money at the strategic development level on consultation from a lawyer, an accountant, or professional fund-raisers — the equivalent of a professional sales team in the charitable sector. This would prove to be a terrible mistake.

Because our funding came directly from the provincial government, I did not invest in fund-raising for our charity outside of that stream of income. This would prove fatal as it ensured our reliance on one client and one client alone — the government. I clearly remember having a payroll of more than $50,000 every two weeks but only a few thousand dollars in my bank account. Despite an enormous accounts receivable, our income was just not reliable as far as timing.

As with most entrepreneurs, I scraped and clawed my way out of those situations, often personally supporting the payroll, always believing it would get better. What it ended up doing was driving me further and further into an untenable financial situation. As more and more children were diagnosed and came to the province for assistance, the provincial government had no choice but to start to take a look at how much funding was allotted per child in order to address the needs of all of the children pouring into the system. This is where the business really started to crumble. To compensate, I took more and more children on as clients in order to meet the needs of our miniscule budget.

As our cash flow became more restricted, I began to borrow small amounts because I believed that the work we were doing was such high quality that our program would continue to sustain itself and grow to new levels of success. I never thought our funding would be eliminated. I believed the good work we were doing would be recognized. In fact, the opposite happened.

As things became more stressful, it became more difficult to see outside my arena of hardship for a solution to break free of that sinking ship. When I look back, I think I was young and too naïve to believe it would ever completely sink, but sink it did and in a big way. Although I can now see its downward spiral over three years, I wasn’t able to admit it until the bitter end, up to my eyeballs in debt, having borrowed from the bank, my parents, and through my credit cards — if there was money available, I used it on the company. We finally closed our doors on September 24, 2004, eight weeks after my wedding — you can only imagine what my mother-in-law thought! I still find it hard to believe that a service that was so popular and had a waiting list was not able to sustain itself. I now realize it was because of my choices that it failed — a bitter pill to swallow.

Since this experience, I have learned that when you begin your career as an entrepreneur, what you don’t want to recognize is that your first business is often (and statistically proven to be) a dress rehearsal for the next and more profitable endeavors to come. Failures, although upsetting and stressful, are often a fact of life that you must prepare for and see as a stepping stone to your next career achievement. What I want to teach you is how to avoid the enormous failures and losses in your career and make you nimble enough to react and change early enough to sidestep a failure.

Once the loss of that business sunk in, I fell into a deep depression. What I didn’t know at the time was that the loss of that business would teach me some of the best skills going forward — and it would be a far better teacher than any university or high-paid consultant ever would be. I knew I had to move on, but felt enormous shame and embarrassment because something I had put so many years into and had sacrificed so much for did not pan out. At the time the business shut its doors, I was newly married and definitely feeling like a failure. I decided to get pregnant in order to move on. I know, I know — those of you who have children are laughing at how ludicrous the idea of having a baby to move on from a depression is, but I swear, I think the sex was helpful!

Since having my daughter, I realize that I may not be the only woman out there who has chosen pregnancy in order to move on from a difficult time in her life. I have always wanted children, even more so once I was married, but looking back, I wish I had chosen to have her just for her and not as a distraction from other pain. What I learned about depression is that it doesn’t go away on its own, and adding a pregnancy doesn’t make it better. In fact, it makes it much, much worse.

Once my daughter was born, our money was totally gone. I had gone bankrupt nine months earlier and I had one year of a small maternity leave benefit to figure out what I was going to do next and how I was going to contribute to our family financially. My husband was monitoring every penny we spent and continuously bringing up the question of when I would go back to work. He even suggested I get a job driving a school bus with my daughter in tow. Not that there is anything wrong with that job, but I had built a million-dollar-a-year charity with more than 50 staff. I knew my potential was greater but I did not know how to get there.

The pressure was enormous; the depression I had suffered from earlier morphed into a beast called postpartum depression and intense anxiety that went undiagnosed for the next year. It would not be until I started working again that I would begin to feel less anxious and more in control of my future. My anxiety at going back to work was crushing. I felt a burning shame at the thought of running into one of my old colleagues, and I was overwrought with worry that we would never be financially stable again. My husband was resentful that he was the only breadwinner, and that I was not showing much interest in getting a job. Needless to say, it was a difficult time.

However, I loved every moment of being with my daughter, even the moments when I thought I would drop dead from sleep deprivation, sore nipples, and overall exhaustion. But, we needed money, and I needed to work. Out of pure desperation to bring some money in, I began writing business plans about any business I had ever considered and could do from home with my daughter in tow. It was a wild and exciting time as I truly felt that my options were limitless. My husband was happy to see me back on my feet and therefore really supportive of another venture (as long as it brought some money in). I had a beautiful, healthy daughter who, luckily, napped regularly and was genuinely happy to truck around the city researching business ideas. I began to build a network of people who were supportive of me finding a new passion.

I wrote about everything I thought might be profitable. I was interested in baking so I looked into a cake shop. I was interested in writing and reading new novels so I looked into becoming a literary agent. I felt I had some experience with fund-raising and grant writing from my charitable background so I looked into consulting in the nonprofit sector. It was an exciting time because I began to see a way out of the mess I had created and I was learning how to recognize a successful business model versus a broken one. I quickly began to recognize how much money I would need to invest in order to turn a profit from carefully calculated cash flows of my first year and I took very conservative looks at how I would sell different products or services in order to meet my family’s financial needs.

It was important for me that my business met certain achievable goals. The following were my targets that the business I chose would have to reach:

• It would have to be something that allowed me to work from home with my daughter and bring me an income of $1,500 per month. That was what I needed in order to make my budget work. (My husband still laughs at how little money I needed then.)

• It needed to have a very low start-up investment. I took $10,000 from my home equity (I was thankful for the housing boom in my area) to start my next business and it couldn’t cost more than that amount; otherwise, it would be cat-food stew for dinner.

• Because of my lack of start-up funds, it needed to be a business that I could do mainly by myself, at least until the business could sustain employees or contractors. My only staff support was still breast-feeding and preferred watching The Wiggles!

• It had to be something that I truly enjoyed because I knew how much emotional, physical, and financial investment it would take. I was still up with my daughter at night (first baby, didn’t have the heart to “Ferberize” her yet) and I knew I would have to love what I was doing to stay conscious throughout the sales cycle.

From this list and from my list of business plan drafts, The Mompreneurs Networking Group Inc. was born. It had everything on my list and more. It allowed me to connect to a group of women (i.e., potential buyers and friends) and facilitate the growth of a new and blossoming community in the Canadian market — a community that continues to grow and develop today. From this business, I learned so much more, including —

• lessons learned from other entrepreneurial moms;

• how to build a website and how to update it;

• how to network;

• how to use social media marketing;

• how to sell;

• how to speak in front of a group;

• how to address my market via TV, the Web, and radio;

• how to negotiate a Unanimous Shareholders Agreement with professional investors; and

• how to sell my business.

My most important achievement has been that I was able to do this while being the main caregiver of my children. This has been my real accomplishment as I look back on my businesses over the last 15 years.