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At first, the effect is small. One situation stays open, and it does not seem important enough to notice. Life continues, and nothing looks broken.

Then another moment appears. Different person, different request, same shape. Again, words soften the stop. Again, participation does not fully end.

Over time, these moments stop feeling separate. They blend into the background of daily life. Not as stress, not as conflict, but as a low level of inner noise.

The body does not register this as danger. The mind does not label it as a problem. It feels more like constant readiness. Attention never fully rests.

This is why people often describe it as tiredness without a clear cause. They are not overwhelmed by one thing. They are carrying many small open loops at once.

Each loop is quiet. Each one seems manageable. Together, they shape how the day feels. Less space. Less ease. Less recovery between moments.

Because this state grows slowly, it becomes normal. People adapt to it without realizing what changed. They adjust expectations, lower energy, and call it adulthood.

Nothing dramatic happened. No clear boundary was crossed. Yet something important shifted. Participation became a default, not a choice.

By the time this is noticed, it no longer feels like one decision that can be fixed. It feels like a way of living. And habits, once formed, are harder to question than single mistakes.