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Also by Leil Lowndes
Preface: Having it all
Part One: You only have ten seconds to show you’re a somebody
The incredible, inescapable, unique essence of you
1 The flooding smile
2 Sticky eyes
3 Epoxy eyes
4 Hang by your teeth
5 The big-baby pivot
6 Hello old friend
7 Limit the fidget
8 Hans’s horse sense
9 Watch the scene before you make the scene
Part Two: What do I say after I say ‘hello’?
Small talk, your verbal welcome mat
10 The mood match
11 Prosaic with passion
12 Always wear a Whatzit
13 Whoozat?
14 Eavesdrop in
15 Never the naked city
16 Never the naked job
17 Never the naked introduction
18 Be a word detective
19 The swivelling spotlight
20 Parroting
21 Encore!
22 Ac-cen-tu-ate the pos-i-tive
23 The latest news … don’t leave home without it
Part Three: How to talk like the big boys ’n’ girls
Welcome to the human jungle
24 What do you do – NOT!
25 The nutshell resume
26 Your personal thesaurus
27 Kill the quick ‘me, too!’
28 Comm-YOU-nication
29 The exclusive smile
30 Don’t touch a cliché with a ten-foot pole
31 Use jawsmith’s jive
32 Call a spade a spade
33 Trash the teasing
34 It’s the receiver’s ball
35 The broken record
36 Big shots don’t slobber
37 Never the naked thank you
Part Four: How to be an insider in any crowd
What are they all talking about?
38 Scramble therapy
39 Learn a little Gobbledygook
40 Baring their hot button
41 Read their rags
42 Clear ‘custom’
43 Bluffing for bargains
Part Five: Why, we’re just alike!
We’re like peas in a pod
44 Be a copycat
45 Echoing
46 Potent imaging
47 Employ empathizers
48 Anatomically correct empathizers
49 The premature we
50 Instant history
Part Six: The power of praise, the folly of flattery
Praise reappraised
51 Grapevine glory
52 Carrier pigeon kudos
53 Implied magnificence
54 Accidental adulation
55 The killer compliment
56 Little strokes
57 The knee-jerk ‘wow!’
58 Boomeranging
59 The tombstone game
Part Seven: Direct dial their hearts
How to be a hit in another show
60 Talking gestures
61 Name shower
62 Oh wow, it’s you!’
63 The sneaky screen
64 Salute the spouse
65 What colour is your time?
66 Constantly changing outgoing message
67 Your ten-second audition
68 The ho-hum caper
69 ‘I hear your other line’
70 Instant replay
Part Eight: How to work a party like a politician works a room
The politician’s six-point party checklist
71 Munching or mingling
72 Rubberneck the room
73 Be the chooser, not the choosee
74 Come-hither hands
75 Tracking
76 The business card dossier
77 Eyeball selling
Part Nine: Little tricks of big winners
The most treacherous glass ceiling of all
78 See no bloopers, hear no bloopers
79 Lend a helping tongue
80 Bare the buried WIIFM
81 Let ’em savour the favour
82 Tit for (wait … wait) tat
83 Parties are for pratter
84 Dinner’s for dining
85 Chance encounters are for chitchat
86 Empty their tanks
87 Echo the EMO
88 My goof, your gain
89 Leave an escape hatch
90 Buttercups for their boss
91 Lead the listeners
92 The great scorecard in the sky
A final word: Your destiny
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