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tell the truth, the half-truth, and nothing but the half-truth

How to Get Out of a Situation You’re Not Ready for – Yet!

Suppose a friend asks you to call 20 people and tell them of the upcoming World Cup Party. But you’re still too shy to talk to 20 strangers. Is it better to ‘confess’ that you’re shy? Or should you find another excuse for wriggling out of their request?

Actually, neither. Take the middle road and half-tell them by alluding to your shyness in a lighthearted fashion. This way you don’t make them the least bit uncomfortable, yet they get the point.

Go ahead and use the ‘S’ word, but just in passing. Say something like, ‘Well, a shy guy like me couldn’t talk to 20 people in one day.’ Or, ‘If you were as shy as I am, you’d rather die than make 20 calls.’

Some Savvy Shys Prefer to Laugh and ‘Warn’ People

If this is your choice, do it in a manner that won’t make either you or them uncomfortable. Say you’re shy – but with a big smile and a ‘So what’s the big deal?’ attitude. Divulge it with lightheartedness like you’re saying, ‘I feel fantastic today.’ People listen to your tone of voice and body language much more than your words. But you knew that already.