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ОглавлениеSection I: A Word to the Shy …
SHYBUSTER 1 Go Cold Turkey on the Small Stuff
Don’t Expect a Miracle (Today at Least!)
SHYBUSTER 2 Eat the Peaches at Your Own Pace
SHYBUSTER 3 Wake Up Like a Whacko
Section II: Why Am I Shy?
Take the ‘Cot Test’ to See if You Were Born Shy
SHYBUSTER 4 Ask Them if You Freaked Out
Did I ‘Catch’ a Dose of Shyness?
SHYBUSTER 5 Rummage Through Your Relatives
SHYBUSTER 6 Did Shyness Rub Off On You?
Was it Bullies in Bygone Days?
SHYBUSTER 7 Replay the Early Show
It Was All Mum and Dad’s Fault
SHYBUSTER 8 Don’t Baby Your Baby
Section III: Dealing with People Until Your Shyness Is Gone
SHYBUSTER 9 Why Tell Strangers?
SHYBUSTER 10 Don’t Burn Yourself with the ‘Shy’ Branding Iron
Tell the Truth, the Half-truth, and Nothing But the Half-truth
SHYBUSTER 11 I’m Shy, So What?
Section IV: What People Really Think of You
SHYBUSTER 12 Be Shy on the Sly
Take Off Your Mud-coloured Spectacles
SHYBUSTER 13 Pitch the Paranoia
Don’t Be a Sucker for Rejection
SHYBUSTER 14 Don’t Choose Toxic Friends
Come Back Down Off the Ceiling
SHYBUSTER 15 Stamp Out the Surreal
Think of Your Shyness from Their Perspective
SHYBUSTER 16 Don’t Let Stupid Sures Make You Shy
SHYBUSTER 17 Be Your Own Social Scribe
I Think I’m Beginning to Love You, Self
SHYBUSTER 18 Find Your Passion and Your Purpose
Section V: Getting Out of the Kitchen
A Shy’s Most Important 10 Seconds
SHYBUSTER 19 Click on ‘Animate’ for 10 Seconds
Who’s the Boss? Your Mind or Body?
SHYBUSTER 20 Let Your Body Be the Boss
SHYBUSTER 22 Octogenarian Eyes
SHYBUSTER 24 Say ‘I Like You’ Silently
A Quick Smile and a Slow Jet Get You Nowhere Fast
SHYBUSTER 25 Make Faces at Yourself
SHYBUSTER 26 A Lifetime of Happiness Was Lost
SHYBUSTER 27 Don’t Let Them Feel Snubbed
If at First You Don’t Succeed, Swear!
SHYBUSTER 28 Your First Failure Is Success
Battling Blushing, Sweating and Clammy Hands
SHYBUSTER 29 Laugh It Off Before It Happens
Section VI: Absolutely No-Pain, Lots-of-Gain Techniques
The Power and Pleasure of Anonymity
SHYBUSTER 30 Be Anonymous for a Day
SHYBUSTER 31 Be an Undercover Shy
SHYBUSTER 32 Kick Out the Dull Kit
SHYBUSTER 33 Be a Part-time Job-hopper
Section VII: Get a (New) Life
SHYBUSTER 34 Time to Jump Ship?
The Shy’s Sneaky Way to Get a Super Job
SHYBUSTER 35 Interview with Companies You Don’t Want to Work For
Section VIII: Parties and Other Places in Hell
SHYBUSTER 36 Prescription: One Small Dose of Party
Going to a Party Is Not ‘Going to a Party’
SHYBUSTER 37 Have a Buddy Monitor You
SHYBUSTER 38 Showing Up Is Not Enough
SHYBUSTER 39 Ponder Before the Party
Getting Legless Is Not the Answer
SHYBUSTER 41 Drink and Drugs Make Shyness Worse
How to Get Off the Hook (Half the Time)
The Danger of Being a ‘Denying Shy’
SHYBUSTER 43 Bring a Note from Your Subconscious
Section IX: Fearless Conversation
SHYBUSTER 44 Be Banal, But Not Brief
SHYBUSTER 45 Sound Dazzled Over the Dullest Things
SHYBUSTER 46 Use Their Moniker in Moderation
SHYBUSTER 47 Ask ‘Go On’ Questions
SHYBUSTER 49 Looking Longer Looks Smart
SHYBUSTER 50 Lingering Looks Kindle ‘Chemistry’
Chameleons Should Choose Their Colours Carefully
SHYBUSTER 51 A Little Shove from a Non-Shy Friend
Become an Expert – on Anything!
SHYBUSTER 52 Find Others Who Share Your Passion
How to Answer the Inevitable Question
SHYBUSTER 53 Rehearse Your Mini-CV
SHYBUSTER 55 Stamp Out Shyness with Your Particular Passion
Section X: Sure-fire Extinguishers for Shyness
A Dare a Day Drives Shyness Away
SHYBUSTER 56 Do Your Daily Dare
Make Shopping a Valuable Part of SOS
SHYBUSTER 57 Inspect Six, Buy One
A Little Help from Man’s Best Friend
SHYBUSTER 58 Attention-getter on a Leash
SHYBUSTER 59 Make a Mental Movie of Your Cool Moves
SHYBUSTER 60 What the Manners Mavens Say
Take a Bite Out of Shyness for Lunch
Download Confidence into Your Eardrums
SHYBUSTER 62 Listen to the Voices in Your Head
Section XI: Sex and the Single Shy
There Are No Love ‘Guarantees’
A Dangerous Dating Game for Shys
SHYBUSTER 63 Computer Dating Is a Sure’s Game
SHYBUSTER 64 Don’t Get Caught in the Sex/Love Trap
The Lovin’ Is Easy. It’s Getting There That’s Hard
SHYBUSTER 65 Act Your Way to Confidence
Section XII: Shy No More
