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If you were to search up the word happiness in a dictionary, your results would be something like “the state of being happy” or “joy”. That’s basically what happiness is.

Happiness is a state of mind that allows you to be content and thankful for what you have in your life. It allows you to be happy for the people you meet when you’re taking a stroll in the street. It allows you to be thankful for the wonderful people that surround your life. That is the basis of happiness.

If you don’t appreciate what surrounds your life then that might be one reason as to why you can’t be happy. I know many people who have the tendency to complain about every aspect of their life on a daily basis. Those are the type of people that are constantly unhappy about their life and complain about how bad living is. If you can’t appreciate what you have then you can’t be happy for having it.

Secondly, happiness is from within. If you’ve heard this a lot and it hasn’t worked for you then listen to it again because your ears were probably clogged up. It’s a fairly easy thing, yet difficult thing to do. The main reason why happiness is difficult for you to achieve is because you try to reject everything around your circle. If you’re not happy with your life then you’re probably only looking at one aspect of it, or you’re trying to only look at the negative ends of it. Bottom line is that you should allow yourself to look at all the perspective of your life if you want yourself to be happy.

Look at the positive side. Ask yourself a few questions before you start to doubt. Here are a few:

1. Why should I be unhappy in the first place?

2. What do I have that others don’t have?

3. What do I benefit from the people around me?

4. What have these people done to help impact my life that I should be thankful for?

These are a few questions that you should ask yourself when you’re having trouble looking in the positive end.

Remember, whatever happens in the beginning of the day is different at the end of the day because at the end of the day, it’s what you have left that’s worth remembering.

Thirdly, happiness is to be able to love yourself. When you love yourself you’re accepting yourself. You’re accepting all of your flaws and you’re appreciating all of the mistakes you’ve made in the past because it’s what allowed you to become the person that you are in the present.

If you feel that you’re not the person that you want to be then there is always room for improvement. Just because you dislike yourself in the present doesn’t mean that you’ll hate yourself in the future. If you want to shape yourself up then you can.

Everyone has some type of motivation meter that makes them feel as if they really needed to get something done. If your motivation meter is past its limit then you know that you can really shape yourself up.

Fourthly, happiness is different for everyone. When I say different, I meant the reasoning. People are happy for different reasons, but in the end, it’s what makes them smile that matters the most.

Remember this, you can’t force happiness. It doesn’t work that way. If you’re going to try to force it out then you’re going to feel completely and utterly depressed afterwards.

Another thing that you should keep in mind is that you shouldn’t reject happiness. I know it sounds weird and probably idiotic but there are some people that would actually do this. I know a fair share of people who are genuinely happy on the outside but complain about how depressed they are on the inside.

If you’re happy then accept the fact that you’re happy. There isn’t any reason as to why you would want to reject that.

The main idea of happiness is the fact that you should be happy with what you have in your life. If you live under a roof, or used to, with at least one of your blood relative and they provide food for you then there is nothing for you to be unhappy about. Even if you might not get along from time to time and there are some occasional arguments there is still something about that to be thankful for.

Stop going around life acting as if you have never had anything good happen to you. You’re not the only one suffering so why make it so hard for yourself to live. Don’t think about what other people have that you don’t and don’t think about what you don’t have that other people have.

It’s your decision to be happy and if you are deliberately stopping yourself from making that decision then there are no way you can achieve happiness.