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One minute you’re upset with your friend Ashley. The next you’re grounded for yelling at your little sister. Your brother calls you Hurricane Hannah, and in your heart of hearts you do feel sort of like a hurricane.

Moods are hard to shake. If you’re mad, hurt, and anxious at

school, chances are you’re going to be mad, hurt, and anxious

when you walk in the door at home. Drama with friends can create

drama at home, and drama at home can create drama with friends.

Bottom line: Drama makes more drama.

Last month, Sophia decided she didn’t like Amber and said you should stop liking Amber, too. Today Sophia said a bunch of bad stuff about Saskia. What if Sophia decides to stop liking Saskia?

When kids create drama, other people get hurt. For some, the

hurt is public and agonizing, but no one walks away free. In

instances like this, a single girl can poison an entire group by

creating an atmosphere of fear, jealousy, and shame. Friends

who should be open and free with one another get guarded.

There’s more plotting and planning. There’s less trust. There’s

less truth. What you share becomes the exact opposite of what

we all want from the word “friendship.”

Bottom line: Drama hurts people and friendships.

When you’re with your friends, you feel fake.

It’s natural for a girl to try on different clothes, different ideas,

and different ways of expressing herself. There’s a little bit of

acting mixed up with all that, which is perfectly natural, too.

It’s about discovering who you are and what kind of person you

want to become. The problem is that most girls are nervous

about what other people think. Drama expresses those fears.

It also makes them bigger. Louder. Girls dealing with daily

drama may end up worrying more about how they appear than how they truly are and what they truly feel. That can make a person feel hollow—and very lonely.

Bottom line: A girl can get lost in drama.