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3. Layla and Jessica got in a fight over Gavin, and your friends all think it was Layla’s fault. It goes without saying that . . .

a. how you behave with Layla is your own business.

b. you’ll ignore Layla in the hall.

4. Destiny tells Camilla, “If you don’t come to the show, you’re not our friend anymore.” The others say . . .

a. “Come off it, Destiny.”

b. “And we want the friendship bracelet back, too!”

5. When your friends look out across the lunchroom, they see . . .

a. other kids.

b. snobs, losers, dorks, and jerks.

Answers

The rules for these two types of groups are pretty clear:

“a” rules

We have our own opinions.

Our motto is: Welcome.

Threats are not cool.

We’re like everyone else.

Difference is fine.

“b” rules

We think alike.

Our motto is: Keep out!

Break a rule, you get punished.

We’re better than everyone else.

If you’re different, we laugh.

If you checked all a’s, your group doesn’t have membership dues.

Friendship is freely given because you all like one another. Each girl feels

like she can be herself.

If you checked mostly b’s, a girl gives a lot to belong to your group.

Your days are shaped by your friends’ expectations. You can’t express

yourself without getting criticized. You can’t make new friends freely.

Worse, you’re learning to treat kids outside the group as if they’re worth

less than you are. It’s a high price to pay for friendships that don’t make

you feel good.