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In 1975 I was assigned as minister of the Fishers United Methodist Church in Fishers, Indiana. My District Superintendent approached me with a deal I could hardly afford to turn down. He informed me that the Rev. Robert Schuller at the Crystal Cathedral Church in Garden Grove, California must be doing something right. He was conducting a Seminar for Successful Ministers and I was invited to attend with the idea of discovering some of the secrets of successful ministry. My Superintendent offered to help pay some of the expenses for that trip if I would in turn report to him what I had discovered.

I flew out to Los Angeles and attended the five-day seminar. I discovered many ideas I could utilize back in my church at Fishers. I was impressed first with his Drive-In Worship Service. They had installed individual outdoor movie-type sound receivers for each car to be placed on their windows. Individuals from the church were there to welcome them and direct them to their places for worship. Their setting was picturesque and the quality of their presentation of worship was impressive.

I returned to Fishers and started the first Drive-In Worship in the Indianapolis Area. We had four loud speakers installed on the roof of our church building that could “blow” sound for five miles (if we wanted them to). We built an outdoor brick pulpit and lecturn stand near the entry doors in the South Parking Lot, wired it for sound, and we were in business.

Our local Boy Scout Troop 109 was enlisted to help us in every service. They welcomed the Drive-In Worshippers, passed out bulletins and hymnals and collected them when the service was over. They passed the offering plates through the congregated cars and delivered the gifts to our church treasurer when finished.

We pre-recorded the piano accompaniment for the hymns we sang and played them through the loudspeakers while the people sang in their cars. This service was appealing to many of our worshippers. Some were handicapped and could not get out of their cars to worship in our sanctuary. Others had physical problems like i and felt they would not be comfortable in a crowded sanctuary. There were some who had small children and they could bring them to the Drive-In Worship in their pajamas. We had worshippers who rode their horses to the services, and others who rode their bicycles ten miles to worship in the outdoors.

We had a great following in this early 8:30 a.m. service and had nearly 125 regular worshippers there (in addition to the regular services in the sanctuary). Our church grew exponentially in those days, and we soon had to add to our physical plant.

We upgraded our musical program and brought in nationally known vocalists (some of whom came from the Garden Grove Community Church, others from famous choirs like the Purdue University Glee Clubs).

But the thing that was most impressive to me about the Crystal Cathedral (and the thing that completely altered my ministry) was the Divorce Recovery Workshop that continued for a few days after the Successful Church Leadership was concluded. THAT WAS MY REAL WAKE-UP CALL!

The Rev. Jim Smoke was minister of Single Adults there at Garden Grove. He had 1200 single adults among their congregation. For several days I listened to him and these hurting people pour out their hearts, sat with them in restaurants hearing what it was like to have gone through a devastating divorce, and I was moved profoundly by that experience.

I came home to discover 82 single adults in our congregation. Basically as a congregation we were saying to them, “You are welcome here, but sit back over there in the corner and don’t make much noise. We don’t want to be bothered by you.” I know why many churches won’t deal with single adults in a meaningful way. Those congregations are filled with many people whose marriages are shaky and they see single-adults as “foot-loose and fancy-free,” a threat to their weak marriages.

I did not want our church to be like that. So I said to my wife (LaDonna), “Honey, I think we are going to start a Divorce Workshop here.” She looked at me with an incredulous look on her face and said, “How in the world are we going to do that? How will we know what to do?” I read over fifty books on divorce and single adult life. Finally I went to my Administrative Board and proposed that we be given permission to do this kind of ministry, and they agreed. (Not fully understanding the need for this), but since they were used to me starting new “weird” things by now, they approved what was to be the changing event in my life.

My wife and I conducted 44 Divorce Recovery Workshops ministering to over 800 people up to and past our retirement. It has been the absolutely most rewarding experience we have had in all of our ministry! Others have taken cues from our experiences and have designed Divorce Recovery Workshops of their own. One of my associates at Fishers went from here to the largest United Methodist Church in the South Conference and built a large single adult fellowship that touched many people.

Because of that WAKE UP CALL, I am now sharing some insights in this book that I hope will inspire other individuals and congregations to reach out and touch their friends whose lives have been broken and need help.