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In the domain of getting over things, what kinds of things do people need to get over? Let’s first go down the list.

The first thing that people need to get over is bad suggestions. From the time we are born, we are told how the world works and we learn so much about ourselves, about who we are and what we’re supposed to do.

We’ve already talked about the importance of holding useful beliefs, so it’s crucial for people to learn how to get over bad suggestions so that they can start to believe in the right kinds of thing and develop new ways of thinking about the world and their future.

Another thing that people have to get over is fears. People have a fear of flying and can’t get on an aeroplane. People have a fear of elevators and can’t go up the easy way. Not all meetings are on the ground floor. People have fears of public speaking.

There are lots of kinds of fears that people have to get over and different approaches to different kinds of fear which we’ll cover.

People have to get over bad memories. There are many different kinds of bad memories. There are people who were abused when they were young. There are people who were traumatized when they were young. I’ve had clients who were raped, as I mentioned earlier. Bad things happen to good people. Reliving the bad things over and over and over again is not beneficial. If doing something once makes you have fear, doing it over and over and over again is only going to reinforce that fear.

The same is true of bad relationships and grief. The more people are stuck for a long period of time feeling bad about the past, the less time they have to begin to make life more wonderful. It’s important for people to know how to get over such things so that they can get on with creating new relationships and new joy in their life.

Finally, we have bad decisions that come about from bad thoughts and bad moods. It’s essential that we learn how to go in the best direction in our lives – and all that begins with learning how to make good decisions. The better the decisions you make, the better your actions, the better the results in your life.

Getting over things is often about helping people to learn how to get their mind to let go of things. It means that you put your problems into the past where they belong.