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It does not matter if somebody introduces somebody to you or if you see somebody from across the room that you would like to meet, before you even speak to them you visually asses them to formulate a quick impression.

Even if you think that you are not a shallow person, who bases relationships upon looks, you do formulate an impression based up on how somebody looks.

Not only do you formulate your first impression of them, but they are formulating their first impression of you as well.

When meeting somebody for the first time you always take in a few details, what are they wearing, how are they dressed, what is their demeanor, what kind of body language are they using, etc.

We are not talking about just looks, but more about how they present themselves.

This is important because they will be noticing all of the same things about you as well. You always want to give the best possible first impression, while being yourself still.

Dating is not about pretending to be something that you are not and that is not what we are talking about in this chapter.

All relationships should be honest and truthful, and any relationship built upon a lie, even a small one, will be doomed to fail.

We are not telling you to pretend to be rich when you are not, or to buy clothing that you cannot afford just to make a good impression.

The caliber of your clothing does not matter, nor should the numbers in your bank account. We are talking about the overall impression that you give off.

It is not what you wear; it is how you wear it. It is about your body language and about how you just appear to be at first glance.

Those first few seconds can be critical, it can tell somebody quickly if you are somebody to avoid or somebody to get to know.

It is always important that you are aware of the image that you are projecting, because it does matter.

You can be dressed in expensive clothes and can still be giving off the wrong impression, causing them to turn away.

That is why we say it is not about dressing up in fancy clothing and flashy accessories; it is how you carry yourself that matters.

Give them a positive impression before they even meet you and you will already be ahead of the game.

Clothing

Wear clothing that you are comfortable wearing. If you are wearing something that you do not like or that you are not comfortable in, it will show.

It will give you the appearance of trying to show off by wearing something just for the appearance of wearing it and that is a turn off.

Dress nicely and be comfortable, you are looking to date somebody, not impress people with how high your shoes are or if you shoes are Italian leather. Wear clothing that fits you well, not too tight and not too lose.

Body Language

If you stand with yourself closed off, such as with your arms crossed over your chest, standing apart from others, it looks like you do not want to be bothered and people will hesitate to approach you with a closed off stance.

Stand normally, with your legs slightly apart and your arms down loose, or one hand in your pocket even. Just be aware that you should have open body language, which is inviting people to come and talk to you.

Facial Expression

If you are standing there, apart from others with a scowl on your face, you will be giving off a very negative impression.

You should be giving off an impression of openness and friendliness. The best thing you can wear to attract somebody to you is a smile, so always have your best smile on.

Those are just some of the things that you need to be aware of about what impression you are giving off. Even if just dashing to the store quickly, take a minute and check the mirror, you never know who you will run into and who will be interested in getting to know you better.

Always take a few minutes to make sure that you look presentable and are approachable.