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Sofia started to trust her counselor as the counselor demonstrated empathy and validation of Sofia’s feelings of being lost and out of place: “I don’t want to go to school, I am forcing myself to go every day. I don’t fit in. I wear the same clothes over and over again and other girls have new outfits every week. They go out together and I don’t get invited. Some boys made fun of me when I didn’t bring art supplies. I feel nervous before any presentation because I know kids are going to think that I am an outcast.” Anna looked at Sofia, whose eyes were watery and said, “It looks like you are going through a lot, and it must be very hard facing so many difficulties, especially when it comes to not having your own home and feeling out of place.” Sofia’s tears were running down her cheeks at this point, but she continued: “I don’t want to feel like this. . . . My mom tells me to get a job. . . . But I can’t. I don’t want to feel the same way while working. I know we need money, but I don’t care.” Anna maintained her eye contact, took some time to respond, and after some silence said, “It sounds like there is a conflict between you and your mom, and such conflict is not helping you at all. Am I right?” Sofia nodded and said, “I wish my mom could understand.” “You don’t feel supported by your mom,” Anna reflected. Anna then asked if there was anything else bothering her at the present time. Sophie shook her head to signify that there was not.