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Chapter 1

The Necessity

The Necessary Involvement

Join me on a journey through relationships filled with spirituality, honesty, and dedication. An individual may define their desire for a relationship, as monogamous or polygamous, and this desire might be conscious or subconscious. Whatever your desire, remember love is the foundation, and treat the situation with love. Some may consider polygamy or a relationship with more than one mate an environment of mockery. However, how many can honestly say that their relationship(s) has been completely monogamous? Nevertheless, such a situation only stands the chance of becoming a mockery only if those involved lack knowledge, understanding, and the guidance to implement it properly. Furthermore, unity must be present in a multiple relationship situation in order for it to be prosperous; it must be guided by God’s love and blessings.

Until now, there has been little to no discussion about multiple-relationship development in America, in our hearts, and further, on how to use it for personal development. Multiple-relationship development (MRD) needs to be understood with faith, guidance, love, and unity. It may not be a way of life for all, but those that are in this type of relationship must make the best of it by making a decree of order.

First, each person must step out of the denial that another woman or other women exist. This denial is the lack of truth concerning multiple women. Men stop hiding this fact and women stop denying it. An introduction to structure and organization will bring forth a movement toward multiple-relationship development (MRD) that has never been seen. To falter with not admitting the denial would be to exhibit a continuous lie in current and new relationships. I do not present this information with a specific religion in mind. I offer this knowledge through the essence of spirituality; your connection with a positive energy force that protects you from day to day. The Omnipresent, which you may refer to as Yhwh, Yah, God, Jehovah, the Most High, Allah, the Creator, Haile Selassie, the Lord, Ja, Father, Buddha, etc. We are all of one spirit. There is no separation, only that within our minds. Being that the mind and soul are connected makes it more of a reason to bridge the division.

My personal experience begins on the 385th day of what I thought to be both the start and end of my relationships. A getaway to a local five-star hotel brought my lover and I more than just peace of mind. It pulled me into his life and lit my life with excitement. After an evening of unimaginable intimacy and romance, I woke up the next morning to him asking me to marry him. Shocked, stunned, and surprised, I fainted and woke up in his arms. My emotions were beyond passionate; it was multidimensional, momentum from within.

The planning of our wedding day wasn’t an easy task. He was rasta and I am simply spiritual. Honorably noting the faith of Jesus (Yahoshua/Yeshua), the aboriginal and indigenous birthright of the Moors, the authentication of the Hebrews, the discipline of Muslims, the love and understanding of Buddhism, the free spirit and natural beliefs of Rastas, the peaceful prayers of Catholicism, the nonjudgmental character of the nondenominational, simply put “the unity of all righteous beliefs.” Yeah, that’s me. Over time, as we moved through our relationship, and despite my adjustments to his beliefs, he showed signs of distrust, and my spirit grew weary. This was the man I was to spend my life with, monogamously.

One bright sunny day, I innately had a strong feeling I was sharing this man with others. I followed my instinct, and I stopped by his home. To no avail, I discovered another woman with him. I imagine he saw and/or sensed me coming. He hid in the bathroom until she and I talked for a while. She told me her story. I told her mine. Her story included his child that she was carrying.

He finally came out of the bathroom, and I asked him if it was true. He nodded. He was busted. In that moment, I knew nothing else except to “go off.” You know the typical—flatting of the tires, ripping the car tag off, and throwing it away (not so typical), etc. Of course, my immaturity level had set in, and these were definitely not thoughts of a conscious-minded person. Aside from my immaturity and misleading understanding, this was a situation that did not have to be if we had a mutual understanding about our relationship from the beginning.

Subsequently, I became very depressed and secluded. It was hard to show up at work, deal with friends and just to be happy. During my depression, my husband-to-be, whom I’ll call Rasta Man, spoke the truth. He believed in multiple mates for many reasons, such as reproduction, togetherness, and for hopes of righteous doings in life abundantly. Knowing his beliefs made me feel better. I no longer perceived his deception as mischief or destruction. It had a new meaning and gave me a new understanding, new insight. I said to him, “If you’re going to have multiple mates, do it with dignity and love. Most importantly allow a flow of balance within the four bodies of spirit, mental, emotional, and physical. Let the Holy Spirit guide you. Why not have organization with what you are already implementing?”

He asked me to join him and help his evolution toward what I now refer to as a multiple-relationship development. Being a natural, spiritual healer, he knew I would be an asset. I would help keep the experience healthy, grounded, and full of faith. After some thought, I realized he was in need of training, knowledge and a belief system that would allow him to be free—free to give, to love, and to develop honesty within himself. After all that I had been through with him, it wasn’t the direction my spirit was calling for. Although he possessed some of the power, it wasn’t the right time, at least not for me.

This experience opened my eyes in ways I never imagined. It made sense to me that a man is capable of having many wives. I realized it was about growth, unity, and, of course, love for a man—a love to help him to be the best he can be, as he does the same for me. And since then, a dear friend of mine who wishes to remain anonymous and considered a consultant for So You Want Seven Wives?, pointed out scripture to confirm my intuition.

Isaiah 4:1 states, “And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, ‘We will eat our own food and wear our own apparel; only let us be called by your name, to take away our reproach [emphasis mine].’”

It is the man’s duty in Christ to take away the sin in the relationships,” said my anonymous consultant. This meant that man must have an intimate relationship with God in order to tap into all the strengths he has—for him to obtain, to manage, and to grow his relationship or multiple-relationship development. Unfortunately, I did not see this in Rasta Man. I was reminded of Exodus 21:10–11, which states that if the man does not provide for his wives, the woman is free to leave. “He takes another wife, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marriage rights. And if he does not do these three for her, then she shall go out free, without paying money.” My consultant stated, “A man that does not take care of his family is worse than an infidel, an unbeliever.” That is why So you Want Seven Wives? wants to help men to accomplish their goal of having a multiple-relationship development (MRD) situation. It lay heavy on my heart to do so. Women, So you Want Seven Wives? wants to help you to learn to be selfless and understand all the blessings that are in store for you, including the best of your man.

In any relationship, who wants to be with a self-centered person? You can’t trust a selfish person; they will easily hurt someone in order to please self. And they will continue to push buttons until you crack. And at that point, they are unfortunately satisfied. Women, a multiple relationship experience isn’t as bad as it may seem. Remember most of you are living it anyway without order. At first, you may feel as though you are giving up power and the situation is an issue. But in actuality, it could be a blessing, and you can gain power if you really love this man and he really loves you. The real success of a relationship, monogamous or multiple, will come from each person loving one another as the Lord loves us. Therefore, stay close to the Creator.

Furthermore, my consultant friend shared with me that the original name, which is in Hebrew text, for Lord is Yah, for God is Elohim and for Jesus is Yeshua. And these original names carry a certain additional power and vibration with them. And for me, Yhwh and Yahoshua as well. I, along with my spiritual teachers, share this knowledge in hopes of bringing your relationship(s) to a place of balance with a solid foundation.

I ask again, “How many of us can honestly say that we are in a monogamous relationship?” Women, you know when your man is being deceitful. I send peace and love to each of you dealing with this. If I can sense the presence of another woman in my man’s soap, surely the feeling of another woman prancing through his home has swiped your spirit. Many of us choose to live in ignorance. Stop supporting it and fighting it at the same time.

Men, why keep lying? You would be surprised by how many women would accept your proposal. First, you must be a man of faith, due diligence, and truth. Multiple-relationship development is a dream for many. Allow the seed of honesty to live within you. Believe the positive and help one another.

Men, imagine peace, patience, and love with your women in order to lead you to an organized life in your relationship. Unfortunately, there will be women that won’t stay forever; however, knowing the purpose of your experience is righteous growth and full of love, will set your situation aside from others.

Women, do not feel alone. Know how your needs are met and have togetherness in your spirit while building and connecting with your higher self. In addition, get to know your inner strengths. This is the positive energy those that are interested must learn to see and embrace in multiple-relationship development also known as MRD.

Male to Female Ratio

Gender ratio is often measured in a male to female ratio:

 According to the 2000 census report on male-to-female ratio black females outnumber black males by 1,727,820 with a total population of 34,658,190.

 White females outnumber white males by 3,914,238 with a total population of 211,460,626.

 American and Alaska-native Indians females outnumber their males by 7,992 with a total population of 2,475,956.

 The Asian race of females outnumbers the Asian males by 345,516 with a total population of 10,242,998.

Moving fast forward to the 2010 Census report nearly every state in North America has a higher population of women. Additionally, according to http://en.worldstat.info/North_America as of 2011 there are 4,961,146 more women than men in North America.

You can see the overall ratio proves there are more women than men in America. Ladies, face it, it is what it is. Men, this is your opportunity to be honest and make your relations with multiple women right.

Loneliness

There are all types of people in the world, and what works for some may not work for all. Multiple-relationship development in society is between the links of a chain. We must find the missing links, strengthen the chain, and allow righteousness to help it with the growth of love. Or even yet, men, find your kingdom within and build it in a compromising state of excellence with unity, thus alleviating loneliness for your women.

Loneliness today is characterized as a health problem. It can cause the mind to be unconducive to positive or cognitive thinking. Motivation to think sits on the shelf, and life may seem painful. When loneliness is felt, it pierces the heart and strikes motivation. But don’t forget that it just may be the Lord (Yah) working within the situation. And with all resurrections, which create healing, the person will come out of it stronger than they were before. So endure, procure, and learn to connect with righteousness from a place of love.

There is a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Being alone from time to time can be healthy. Be alone and listening to music, sipping on champagne, and reading a book versus sitting at home bored to tears and sad because of previous relationships. Most importantly, studying the word of Yhwh. People with certain health conditions stand a lower chance of survival living alone. It has been said that single women with breast cancer live half as long as those in a positive relationship. When you think about it, all sorts of unhealthy conditions are associated with being alone. Negative thoughts transform into stress, and stress transforms into a diseased body. With this in mind remember, you don’t have to think about anything you don’t want to.

Also, there are children that simply pass from this life from loneliness and of those children that survive. Who are they? Where is their mind-set? Occupy the mind with good thoughts of others; it can bring an enormous amount of joy. Sunshine lifts the spirit and the wind twirls around your body until you know that the ether of God’s (Elohim) love is within reach. Remember, what you say, think and feel is what you become. You build your life through your thoughts.

Unity

Unity has created peace within the storm. It gave 9/11 victims, and many people involved in the recent disasters the ability to rebuild with hope and warmth. The comfort of sharing oneself and opening the heart to those that are like-minded, kind, and worthy will help set you free.

A simple walk along the river stream becomes the tangibility of a dream. Man and woman are meant to be together in unity. My consultant friend stated, “The Father did not create man and woman for them to be apart. And if women would put away pride and men would stop being boys, we will all be better off.”

The amazing thing about multiple-relationship development (MRD) is that the unity of it is alive even in nonsexual relationships. For instance, imagine a nonintimate scenario, whereby a man has many women working for him in an organized setting. This is truly an example of a man creating and maintaining peace with multiple women, which is the behavioral essence of MRD. It represents the balancing capabilities of the man and his ability to manage the female nature with his own manhood capabilities. “Me man, you woman!” Males in every experience can exercise this technique with women. Remember, what we all truly want are happiness and fulfillment in every moment, everything and eternally. So let this be your prayer, and everything else will fall in place for the success of your mission here on earth and beyond.

This knowledge is not only accessible for intimate relationships, but it applies across the board. A righteous place with a Holy Spirit-guided path will bring out the best in any spiritually led experience or goal. Seek within yourself, your own righteous power, and watch your greatness succeed, thus empowering you to be the best you can be. Unity. Unity. Unity.

Today’s economic experiences are simply forcing people to unify. Households are becoming more crowded, and human nature is learning to be selfless. MRD complements today’s economic situations if implemented correctly, thus allowing men to feel comfortable and become truthful in their endeavors with more than one woman. In the truth of the world’s major matters, there is more of a need for MRD today than ever.