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It is still not enough for language to have clarity and content … it must also have a goal and an imperative.

— René Daumal (1908–1944), French poet

The separation and divorce process is akin to waking up in a foreign country. Lost and confused, you have just enough knowledge of the language to know that you are missing the substance of the conversation. Consider this section your quick-start travel guide. Its purpose is to explain the essential terms of the language of separation and divorce. Understanding the language will help make it easier for you to follow the process you now find yourself facing.

This list is not complete. It is not a list of legal definitions; it is a list of user-friendly definitions, which may mean that it is somewhat generalized. If you want the precise legal definition of any term, it is best to consult a lawyer.

Another caution to keep in mind throughout this book is that nothing in the legal system is written in stone. When a case goes to court, the outcome is dependent on the case itself, the way it is presented, and on the judge who is hearing it. The information presented in this book is intended to help you make informed decisions. It in no way predicts a specific outcome. Always consult the appropriate professional for advice specific to your case.

This information is included as a chapter rather than as a glossary because it is important for you to review the terms before you get into the details.

The following terms will begin your separation and divorce primer:

Access: Visitation rights of the non-custodial parent and other interested parties, such as a grandparent.

Age of majority: The age at which a person acquires all the legal rights of an adult in the jurisdiction in which he or she lives. In most places, this age is assumed to be 18. In some states or provinces, it may be an older age. Check your state or province’s website for more information on the age of majority in your area.

Annual income: Income earned in one year from all sources, including salary, self-employment, rental, investments, and other sources.

Case law: A term used to reflect how the courts interpret laws. Case law (or common law, as it is sometimes called) is law based on previous decisions by judges.

Child of the marriage: Any dependent child (due to age, disability, or other cause) to whom the married couple acted as parents, including children who are not biologically related to the spouses, such as stepchildren and adopted children.

Community property/marital property/family assets: Property (assets and debts) acquired since the date of the marriage, regardless of the name in which the property is registered. (As property division is governed by state or provincial law, the terms used in the acts vary, but the meaning is usually the same.) The only potential exceptions are inheritances, some insurance settlements, and direct gifts to one party. The word “potential” is important, as different rules apply to different jurisdictions.

Consent order: An agreement between the parties involved in the separation or divorce that has been reviewed by a judge to ensure that it is reasonable. If children are involved, the judge reviews the agreement to ensure that it is in the best interest of the child. Consent orders may be used to change a previous court order.

Contested divorce: A divorce in which there are areas of disagreement; for example, property division, support, or custody.

Court order: The decision or ruling handed down by a judge. For example, when parents cannot agree on child custody or child support, either one may ask the judge to decide. The decision becomes a court order.

Court registry: Places where all court records of open cases are kept (usually the courthouse). Your divorce application should be filed at the registry closest to your place of residence. There is also a central divorce registry kept by the federal government. If you are not sure if your spouse has filed for divorce, or if you suspect your spouse may have filed for divorce in another state or province, you can check with the central registry.

Divorce: The process laid out by federal law under which a marriage is legally terminated.

Divorce order/decree: The final outcome of divorce proceedings. The order or decree is a court order stating that the marriage is dissolved.

Imputing income: Done when the court feels that the amount of income a spouse claims for the purpose of determining support payments is too low to be appropriate. In such a case, the court could impute income (i.e., assign an amount) to the spouse whose income is needed to calculate support. For example, the court may attribute income to a spouse who fails to provide income information requested by the courts, or a spouse who is suddenly unemployed or underemployed for no good reason.

Interim or temporary agreement: An agreement between the two parties on specific issues — such as child support payments or sharing of expenses during separation — which will be effective while the parties work out the rest of the details of the divorce. A lawyer is not required to create an interim or temporary agreement, but it is a good idea to consult with one to ensure that legal rights are not being signed away.

Minor children: Children who have not yet reached the age of majority. If there are minor children involved in a separation, the child’s best interest must be the motivating factor in deciding physical custody, access, and guardianship. Parents cannot sign away the rights of a child. Doing so will invalidate any agreement and allow the courts to set up new arrangements.

No-fault divorce: A divorce in which the grounds for divorce are solely that the parties have been living separate and apart for one year.

Pre-divorce syndrome (PDS): A condition suffered by those going through divorce. Symptoms may include feelings of rage, fear, loss, helplessness, pain, misery, hate, anguish, hostility, revenge, loss of self-esteem, and blaming (self or others). Some seek to deal with their feelings using alcohol, drugs, or other destructive behavior. PDS may linger on long after the divorce is finalized.

Separation: The name given to the event that may lead to a divorce. Separation occurs when a married couple has decided that their marriage is no longer working. They have ceased marital relations and are seeking to determine the next step in their relationship. The couple is still legally married during this stage.

Separation agreement: A legally binding contract that details the terms and conditions of the separation as agreed by both parties.

Settlement: The term used to indicate resolution of the financial and other issues upon the dissolution of the marriage.

Uncontested: A divorce in which both parties agree on all the issues involved in the divorce.

There are two other terms that deserve further discussion. These are “custody” and “support.”