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Frustration is a normal response to being blocked. When our Wood Element is healthy, this frustration leads to adaption, renewed effort, negotiation or creativity. When our Wood Element is weaker, the frustration easily escalates into ineffective anger and difficulty in adapting to existing rules, boundaries and structures — or finding new ones.

Although the emotion associated with Wood is usually labelled ‘anger’, the frustration of natural assertion has many degrees and a rich descriptive vocabulary. We might use words like: frustration, irritation, annoyance, gall, pique, resentment, fury, outrage, indignation, exasperation, rage or wrath to describe the degrees of how we feel. We might use various colloquialisms often implying the addition of heat and weaponry, e.g. ‘blood boiling’, ‘blew my top’, ‘went ballistic’. All these states are a development from basic frustration and there are a great variety of ways to express them.

Here Hilary describes her extremes of anger:

I seem to have fluctuating moods. I can be easily angered or irritated or spontaneously happy as well. My mood changes a lot. When I get angry I feel intensely scrunched up inside and I can feel my mouth crumple up into a ball. Sometimes I feel I want to kill someone or I feel like throwing or smashing something. When it’s gone it’s a contrast and it’s gone completely.

Simon describes a common experience for Wood types; wanting to express, but pulling back from showing the real feelings.

The other day on a bus, the driver was driving like a kamikaze pilot. I wanted to go and say ‘you are driving people you know’ and I kept holding back but wanting to say something. Once I start having a go about something I know I’ll be doing it all the time, so I don’t say anything.

SOME RESEARCH ABOUT ANGER

Research shows that getting angry can seriously damage our health. One study found that when people remembered and recounted an incident which made them angry, the pumping efficiency of their hearts dropped on average by 5 per cent. A 7 per cent drop is thought to be potentially dangerous!⁴