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The Wood Element gives us the ability to assert ourselves in the world. When it’s imbalanced this natural inclination may become exaggerated. This can lead Wood types to push themselves forward more forcefully than other types. Any obstacle against this force may be kicked to one side. In some contexts this may be seen as rebellion.

Teenagers often rebel against the rules. This can enable them to find their own identity in order to separate from their parents and family. Jasmine, a Wood type, here recalls being rebellious:

Historically I found boundaries difficult. I had very constraining parents and I had to break every rule. If I was asked not to do it, I’d do it or I became devious in order to break the rules. I didn’t want to be controlled. I still often feel that way now.

Often Wood types find that they have an ambivalence about structures and boundaries. On the one hand they can love them because they know where they are with them. On the other hand they might find them constraining and want to push them away. Colin, who was in the fire service, explained this well:

I hate constraints being set up against me and I immediately rebel. In the fire service I chaffed against the rules and regulations. Then when I became an officer I thought — these aren’t so bad after all.

When we adhere to good rules things flow more easily. On the other hand, some structures and conventions get out of date or are not productive and it does require confrontation and maybe even rebellion to change these. Social change is in part a record of these rebellions.

For many Wood types rebellion is their natural environment. If they do not have a worthwhile reason for rebelling, then they will rebel in any case and go for a change. In so doing, they change the distribution of space and we can often feel, from the outside, that our space has been taken up. Simon told us:

I have a lot of ‘front’. I’m up front and talk to people and tell them what I want. I don’t always give them much space. In fact I can be oblivious to them sometimes. I know if it was me I’d be livid.

Jacqueline also notices that she feels as if she takes up more space at times:

Sometimes I see myself as bigger than I am. I often feel that I rise to the occasion. I come over as being assertive and people get the impression that I am assertive. I pull out a confident front although I’m not necessarily at all confident.

The next pattern is in some ways an extension of ‘being rebellious’.