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Too many of our bits and pieces get an easy ride when it comes to the crunch-question: should it stay or should it go? They pass the acid test with the eternal favourite of all hoarder excuses, “That might come in useful one day!” Even if we don’t need it, the children might want it in fifteen years time. Or a friend. The neighbours..? Underneath this innocent little excuse lurks a paralysing emotion; fear. We might have been spared first-hand experiences of hunger or homelessness, but still catch ourselves humming along to the feeling tones of an ever-present subconscious ‘tomorrow there might not be enough.’ Maybe some of our predecessors had to endure war times or an economic depression. Poverty consciousness can be passed down through the generations, but we can break the chain and transform fear vibes and cultivate trust every time we let go of an object that was kept incarcerated in a box dungeon for security reasons only. Once we have realised that our expectations create our reality we unsubscribe from the widespread mantra, “Every time I give something away I need it again”. Instead we use the brand new confidence gained from clearing successes (five pairs of trousers, three chipped mugs, one flaky friend!) to pat ourselves on the back and say out loud, “Should I ever require a spare tin opener again, I trust life will provide me with an even better one.” Using objects as security blankets is a habit we can break anytime we choose to. For a child, pieces of fabric transform into an imaginary friend and we hold on to familiar imagery just the same. Gifts we receive prove how popular we are; books signify knowledge; trophies or certificates are symbols of achievement. There is nothing wrong with a few well-placed memorabilia spreading comforting or encouraging vibes; it is about quantity. Kids rarely own 75 security blankets; they do not burden themselves with them or suffocate themselves underneath. How much stuff does it take to feel safe, to feel rich or secure? What does enough feel like? “The more stuff I stack around me, the more secure I am,” is a misunderstanding. Belongings can do many things, but making us permanently feel safe and loved is outside their remit.

Security is never in stuff. It is found in having the confidence to handle any experience that life might throw our way. The storms will come, but we are steering our boat.