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Let's start with how things actually have changed for our children and for us. I mentioned earlier that Obamacare created a perceived benchmark of 26 years old for financial separation. Before that change, there was a lot more pressure for young adults to get a job that included health care as soon as they were thrown off either their parents' or university's health insurance. For many, the change was often timed to getting out of college.

Without the need to get – let alone pay for – health insurance, young adults were more free to pursue nontraditional career paths because they did not need to work for a company that would provide health insurance. It bought them time to explore their interests, perhaps even to become entrepreneurs or independent contractors. The timing was right, as so many jobs evolved in the gig economy. There's a lot that is wonderful about how things have evolved.

As parents, we have raised our children to pursue their passions, at times regardless of actual talent or aptitude. Who are we to say that they won't be successful? Maybe we don't know what it takes to succeed in their desired field, and they really are going to make it. We encourage them to keep at it, to participate even if they don't win, to do what they love regardless of whether there is a clear economic payoff. But what happens when their passion doesn't pay the bills for the lifestyle we have led them to believe they are entitled to have? Who can blame us for stepping in to subsidize the dream we told our children to go after?

When I decided I wanted to be a journalist, it was pretty clear to me that my Wall Street investment banker dad had his doubts. He knew money made life easier and wanted the best for me. TV news was not just brutally competitive; it didn't pay well unless you really made it to the top. He was also paying for my Ivy League education. He told me he would support me financially while I did an internship in journalism the summer before my senior year – but only if it was in business news. His idea was that covering Wall Street would make me want to go work on Wall Street.

My dad was probably thinking the odds of me getting on camera as a TV anchor were pretty slim. He didn't want to be the bad guy and squash my dreams. I got myself that unpaid internship at CNN Business News and worked overnights getting to know the business from the likes of Maria Bartiromo, Stuart Varney, and Lou Dobbs. So that's pretty much how I ended up as a financial journalist: a compromise by a concerned parent trying to balance his hopes, expectations, and ambitions for his child with his desire to support her passion. Suffice it to say, his hope was that I would transition to a lucrative financial job after college graduation. Decades later, even now that I'm a CFP^®, my father still asks when I'm going to get a job at an investment bank or a money management firm.

Getting back to the larger trends, in recent years student debt has exploded. That creates a huge roadblock for even the best prepared and most well-positioned new graduates to be financially independent of their parents. Students get a rude awakening when the first bill comes, and for many, cutting housing expenses by moving back home is actually the most financially astute decision for all the financial stakeholders. Remember, parents also take out loans to pay for their kids' education.

Home prices have skyrocketed, putting affordability out of reach for many young people. Wages have not kept up. And attitudes toward renting have changed. As a journalist I know data can be presented in many different ways, but there is compelling evidence that renting over buying is not always a bad financial decision, especially if your child wants flexibility with ever-changing economy and tax laws. At the very least, the idea of putting all your resources and stretching to buy a home has been put into question.

Liz Weston, CFP^®, is the author of six books about money as well as a finance columnist at Nerdwallet. She is also the mother of an 18-year-old daughter. Weston is concerned about young adults getting into homes they won't be able to afford and remembers the 2008 housing bubble burst and the mortgage mess that followed:

It used to be the advice to stretch to buy a house because there was inflation, and inflation would inevitably raise your wages and you could afford it down the road. Well, there hasn't been wage inflation for a very long time, at least not for the majority of Americans.