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Transforming your life is not time related. It starts with a decision and a strong yearning and desire to have it be different, and then follows through with some radical actions.

Many people lack confidence, motivation, or are lost with no clear direction meaning or purpose. They are oblivious to what they are truly capable of. They are often underestimating what is possible for them in their lives.

It may be that they have no job, or it may be that they are a top level CEO; it does not matter where they are or who they are if they are not happy and fulfilled – if they don't experience a strong sense of purpose on some level, their life does not work.

Where they live in the privacy of their own head is what needs to be surfaced and examined.

Once again, ask yourself: Why did you pick up this book? Perhaps part of you is not really satisfied, but you don't dare admit it – not even to yourself – for fear of invalidating your life to date.

Sure you have made some great decisions – after all, you may on the surface have a successful life. You have the luxury to provide the best things that money can buy for your children and family, but still there is something missing.

Part of getting to the answer of some of these deep questions is examining your purpose. It is vital to reconnect to the energy force and your values.

Everyone has values but are not necessarily conscious of them.

Becoming conscious of your values is an essential part of redirecting your focus, and we will be discussing this in much more depth in the first section of the book.

It is my experience that once individuals get a glimpse of what their life could be like, it's like a drug.

Then begins the quest of creating a life where they experience themselves as more fully engaged and expressed.

We race through our lives never pausing to consider who we really are and, more importantly, who we really want to be expressing.

Before I became a facilitator, my career began as an English Literature teacher when I taught in some of the roughest and toughest areas of London.

Here I would meet many teenagers, some of them coming from difficult homes, and I learned very quickly that the first lesson they had to learn was to believe in themselves. I believed that as their teacher I had a responsibility to get them to where they felt confident and strong.

Unfortunately, they had had years of being told:

• you are no good

• you are worthless

• you are bad

• you will never amount to anything.

The difficult ones would end up in ‘sin bins’ (classrooms manned by strict teachers where the pupil was not allowed to talk or leave the room for the whole day).

Others would be in exclusion units. I realized early on that while the school and teachers felt they were helping, all they were actually doing was supporting the body of evidence these children were gathering about themselves –‘I am not good enough, and I am not worthy'.

Getting these pupils to believe in themselves really paid off because, under the hard shell, they were just young people who had been let down and were disillusioned.

Does any of this sound familiar? My work as a facilitator focuses on getting people to stand back and challenge some of their limiting beliefs about what is possible for them. They may have inherited these beliefs from their home life, school life, classroom or cultural background.

However they have acquired these beliefs, they become accustomed to thinking of themselves as smaller than their problems, as victims of circumstance, and generally end up blaming others for their situation or for not having what they want in life. In this paradigm, we are all powerless to effect any change.

‘I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.’

Jimmy Dean

The big challenge is to get back in touch with what we value, what lights us up, what motivates us in life.

Once this is achieved, we can begin to take a fresh look at every area of our life. We can stand in a place of possibility and choice rather than resignation.

It is my experience that once individuals get a glimpse of who they could be, they become passionate about creating a life where they experience themselves as more fully engaged and expressed.