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Do you want your life to be a manifestation of your deepest values, a life where you get to choose consciously where and who you spend your time with?

A life of choice, a life where you are in the driver's seat and you are the author of your universe?

Going through the step-by-step process outlined in this book, you will begin to create clarity and vision for your own life.

‘An unexamined life is not worth living.’

Throughout this book, you will be getting opportunities to do precisely this. To re-examine some of your decisions and choices with a view to dismantling old, outdated beliefs, negative self-talk and entrenched mindsets that have rendered you powerless.

In 2013, a fascinating study was performed by Bronnie Ware – a nurse in a terminal palliative care unit.

She decided to poll her patients in their last days in the hope of uncovering any regrets so others might learn. These were her findings:

‘The regrets touch upon being more genuine, not working so hard, expressing one's true feelings, staying in touch with friends and finding more joy in life.’

Bronnie Ware, author of The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (Hay House)1

My experience aligns with this beautifully, I have sprinkled the book with case studies of people I have worked with who have had similar regrets. Luckily they are not on their deathbed, but they have had a wake up call in their life and are now fully focused on redressing the balance. These regrets are summarized as follows – can you identify with any of them?

1. Not having the courage to live a life true to yourself and instead living the life others expect of you.Are you living your dreams and honouring your dearest values?Are you following your heart or are you living a life to fulfil someone else's dream or to keep their approval? You have the freedom today to choose a different way to live your life. Use this book and the methods to help you journal your way to a better life.

2. Neglecting those closest to you or taking them for granted. Do you have a spouse and family you are neglecting for the sake of your work? When was the last time you put your kids to bed and read them a bedtime story? Our children are only children for a very short time, are you making memories you can all share today or are you waiting for a time when you are not so busy? ‘Time waits for no man’ and neither do your children, don't throw away their youth.

3. Not having the courage to express your feelings. Are you suppressing your feelings in order to keep peace with others? Are you hiding your true light behind a bushel, never expressing yourself truthfully for fear of offending or causing upset? Are you taking every opportunity to be up to date with your loved ones and friends or are you harbouring bitterness and resentments? Be careful, for what we hold on to holds us back.

4. Failure to stay in touch with supporting friends and peers. Friendships are special and take time and investment to nurture and develop. Good friends should never be taken for granted, staying in touch and keeping the channels open will serve you particularly in the tricky times when you need a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on. Friends celebrate your successes and commiserate with you when times get tough. Never underestimate the value they bring to your life. No man is an island.

5. Not allowing myself to be happier. Happiness is a state of mind and a choice; if we consistently choose to see the glass half empty and moan about what is not great in our life, we blind ourselves to what miracles are happening around us every day. The kindnesses people show us, the beautiful scenery, sunsets, seascapes, forests we can see. When we stop being grateful for our health, family and loved ones we deny others and ourselves the opportunity to express joy and happiness. This is not something we should only leave for Christmas; we should do every day of our lives. Beware of getting stuck in a habitual way of expressing yourself. Don't be scared to show your emotions, stop pretending that you are OK with things as they are and if you are not happy, change it.

Over to you

Which regret do you struggle with most?

What is holding you back?

Don't wait for a life-threatening disease or a deathbed moment to get your insight, start NOW.

As I said, it's your decision, but using the tools in this book to give you the insights, and then applying what you learn, will help you to make that change. My desired outcome for you is that at the end of this journey I will guide you through you will arrive at a new stage and will be stating one of the following:

• My priorities have completely changed.

• I now feel I can really follow my hopes and dreams.

• I want to focus on happiness.

• I want to express my true self.

• I am ready to follow my dreams.

• I have a new sense of meaning and purpose.

This book is a distillation of years of experience, seminars I have run and attended, books I have read and amazing people I have learned from on my path.

I want you to enjoy this book, and also be able to use it to motivate yourself, connect to your purpose, and get what you really want out of life.

Grab your journal. Let's get started.