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1  Cover

2  Introduction About This Book Foolish Assumptions Icons Used in This Book Beyond the Book Where to Go From Here

3  Part 1: Getting Ready for Sex Chapter 1: So You Want to Know More about Sex What Is Sex, Anyway? So Why Do We Have It? Understanding the Ins and Outs of the Sexual Response Cycle Partnering Up Playing It Safe Adjusting Over Time Are You Ready to Get Busy? Chapter 2: Tuning the Male Organ The Penis: Inside and Out Grasping the Basics of Your Testicles The Prostate Gland Chapter 3: Demystifying the Female Parts Making Time for a Grand Tour Translating All Those Latin Terms The “Men” Words: Menstruation and Menopause Breasts: Hanging in There Chapter 4: Dating Does Anybody Still Date? Where Chemistry and Physics Mingle Giving Romance a Chance to Bloom Overcoming Loneliness and Getting Yourself in Dating Shape A Road Map for the Dating Apps The Thrill of the Chase, the Bummer of Rejection Finding the Right Partner: Difficult, Yes; Impossible, No If You're North of the 29th Parallel Practical Dating Tips for All Ages Should You Have Sex On a First Date? Chapter 5: Introducing Sex into a Relationship Determining When the Time Is Right Safety First Advice for Virgins Advice for Those with Prior Experience Chapter 6: Commitment and Marriage Knowing That Love Isn’t Enough Handling Children and Commitment Putting Your Marriage First Strengthening Your Marriage Chapter 7: It’s All about Control: Contraception and Sex Why Use Contraceptives? Considering Your Birth Control Options Facing Facts about Birth Control Myths If Your Method Fails Chapter 8: Growing Up Fast: The Challenges of the Teen Years Being a Teenager in the 21st Century Evolving into Adulthood Dealing with Common Concerns Protecting Your Privacy Don’t Stop Here

4  Part 2: Doing It Chapter 9: Foreplay: Revving Up Your Engines Foreplay for Life Linking the Emotional to the Physical Setting the Stage Getting Physical Switching Gears: Engaging the Genitals Moving on to the Main Event Variety Is the Spice of Foreplay Chapter 10: Intercourse: Coming Together for the First Time What’s the Rush? Making Your First Time Special The First Time for Women The First Time for Men The First Time All Over Again Chapter 11: Changing Positions: Variations on a Theme The Good Old Missionary Position The Female-Superior Position Taking Her from Behind East Side, West Side, Side by Side Lap Dancing The Oceanic Position Standing Up Oral Sex: Using Your Mouth Anal Sex: Handle with Care Safe Sex: Playing Alone Together Sex During and After Pregnancy: Orgasms Are Okay, with Changes Chapter 12: Going for the Big O What Is an Orgasm, Anyway? Experiencing Orgasms: Differences for Men and Women Achieving Orgasm: Let Me Count the Ways Don’t Try — Let It Come. You’ll Be Glad You Did Putting on Your O-Face: Responding to the Orgasmic Experience The Best Reason to Have an Orgasm Chapter 13: Afterplay: Embracing the Moment Understanding the Importance of Afterplay Sharing the Moment The Simplest of Techniques Chapter 14: Spicing Up Your Sex Life Using Variety to Add Some Va Va Va Voom to Your Sex Life Expanding Your Toy Chest What If You’re Just Never in the Mood?

5  Part 3: Different Strokes Chapter 15: Enjoying Oral Sex Overcoming Your Inhibitions Leaving Him Breathless: What Men Like Making Her Toes Curl: What Women Like Dealing with Some Delicate Details Assuming the Position Addressing the Safety Issue Chapter 16: Savoring Solo Play and Fantasy Exploring the Mythology of Masturbation Avoiding Too Much of a Good Thing Masturbation: Good for All Ages Masturbation Education Fantasy: It’s All in Your Head Chapter 17: Keeping Up with Cybersex and Other Hot Stuff Eyes Wide Open: A Word of Caution Cybersex: Sights for Mature Minds Sex and the Telephone: Aural Sex Sex and the Radio: It’s All Talk Sex and Television: A Different Meaning of Boob Tube Pulp Nonfiction Sex with Multiple Partners: Where Do All of These Body Parts Go? Chapter 18: Celebrating Same-Sex Relationships Considering Sexual Identity Determining Your Orientation: What Turns You On Revealing Your Sexual Identity Sexual Practices among Gay Men Sexual Expression between Lesbians Marriage between Same-Sex Partners Chapter 19: Conquering the Challenges of Mature Sex Female Changes: Tackling Menopause Male Changes: Not All the Same The Psychological Pluses and Minuses Chapter 20: Thriving Sexually with Illness or Disability We Are All Sexual Beings Sex When You’re Physically Disabled Sex After You’ve Had a Heart Attack When Disabilities Arise Later in Life Sex When You Have Diabetes Sex and People Who Are Mentally Disabled or Ill Sex and People Who Are Living in a Long-Term Care Facility Uncompromising Compromised Sex

6  Part 4: Having a Healthy Sex Life Chapter 21: What You Can Catch and How to Prevent It STDs: Battle Scars No One Wants after a Night of Sex Let’s Get Serious Chapter 22: Erectile Dysfunction and Other Male Sexual Problems Premature Ejaculation Erectile Dysfunction Delayed Ejaculation Priapism — The Case of the Permanent Erection The Bent Penis Lack of Desire Chapter 23: Low Libido and Other Female Sexual Problems That Elusive Orgasm Ouch! It’s Too Tight in There When Cleaning the House Sounds Better Than Having Sex Every Body Is Attractive Sex After a Mastectomy Chapter 24: Avoiding Sexual Relationship Pitfalls Making Time for Alone Time Making the Most of a Long-Distance Relationship Dealing with Addictive Behavior: Hooked on Porn Staying Close to Avoid the Empty-Nest Syndrome Making Sex a Priority Chapter 25: Sex and the Law Sex, Children, and the Law Rape: A Growing Concern The Law and Contraception The Law against Spreading Diseases Abortion: A Legal Safeguard The Law and Homosexuality Prostitution: The Case for Legalization Pornography: Erotic or Obscene Adultery: Cheating the Law Chapter 26: Teaching Your Children about Sex and Keeping Them Safe Not Everything Is Dangerous Answering Children’s Questions Warning Signs of Possible Sexual Abuse The Accidental Voyeur Protecting Your Children from the Media Protecting Your Kids from Cyberporn Giving the Speech about Strangers Sex Ed and the Older Child Other Messages You Don’t Want to Send

7  Part 5: The Part of Tens Chapter 27: Ten Dumb Things People Believe about Sex If I Haven’t Had Sex by the Time I’m 18, I’m a Loser The More I Score, the More Pleasure I’ll Have The Sex Depicted in Porn Is True to Life The Grass Is Always Greener in the Neighbors’ Bedroom Sex Will Make Everything All Right A Good Lover Must Be an Open Book I Should Compare Sexual Partners I Can’t Become a Better Lover Lovers Want and Need the Same Things I’m Too Old to Have Sex Chapter 28: Ten Tips for Safer Sex Learn to Say No Limit Your Number of Partners Don’t Rely Solely on Your Instincts Never Dull Your Senses When You’re with Strangers Discuss Safer Sex in Advance Use Condoms Develop a Relationship Before You Have Sex Don’t Engage in Risky Behavior Don’t Forget about the Other STDs Don’t Sell Your Other Options Short Chapter 29: Ten Things Women Wish Men Knew about Sex Chivalry Isn’t Dead Yet Appearances Count You Can’t Hurry Love A Clitoris Is Not Just a Small Penis Women Need to Bask in the Afterglow Kinky Sex Isn’t Sexy Sex Wandering Eyes Mean Less Sex Slam-Bam-Thank-You-Ma’am Doesn’t Cut the Mustard Changing Diapers Is Sexy Just Because You Can’t Doesn’t Mean You Won’t Chapter 30: Ten Things Men Wish Women Knew about Sex Being Aware of Mixed Signals Lack of Sex Really Can Hurt Sometimes Wasting Electricity Is Okay Teamwork Is Important Celebrities’ Bodies Are Not a Threat A Little Tact, Please If You Really Loved Me, You’d … The Way to a Man’s Heart Is Not through His Stomach It Might Just Be Sex The Older a Man Gets, the More Help He Needs Chapter 31: Ten Tips for Truly Great Lovers Don’t Make Love on Your First Date Set the Mood as Far in Advance as Possible Find Out What Your Partner Needs Protect Yourself and Your Partner Don’t Fall into a Rut Fix the Potholes of Love Use Your Sense of Touch Become a Great Kisser Satisfy Your Partner Even If You Don’t Feel Like Sex Adjust to Changes Caused by Aging

8  Appendix A: Step into My Office Baring All for the Sexual Status Exam Sex Therapists Give the Best Homework Finding a Sex Therapist Choosing a Sex Therapist

9  Appendix B: Terrific Resources Counseling Sex Therapy Sexually Transmitted Diseases Sexual Orientation Sexuality and Family Planning Sexual Toys Protecting Children Support Groups Advice for the Disabled Sexual Assault

10  Index

11  About the Author

12  Connect with Dummies

13  End User License Agreement