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Among the various forms or types of social solitude or withdrawal, shyness has received the most attention from researchers perhaps because: (1) it is believed to indicate social incompetence or failure to satisfy the personal desire for social interaction; (2) it is associated with negative emotions, such as fear, anxiety, and dissatisfaction; and (3) it represents a risk factor in the development of psychopathological outcomes (Rubin et al., 2009). Nevertheless, there is emerging interest in recent years in other types of children’s social withdrawal. Among these types, unsociability has received increased attention from researchers, who have investigated its nature and developmental significance often in comparison with those of shyness (e.g., Chen et al., 2011; Liu et al., 2015). According to Asendorpf (1990), whereas shyness is derived from a combination of high approach and high avoidance motivations in social settings, unsociability may reflect a combination of low approach and low avoidance motivations. Unsociable children have a low desire to initiate or participate in social activities but may not avoid interaction when others approach them (Asendorpf, 1993). In other words, although unsociable children initiate fewer social interactions than sociable children, they do not turn down social invitations (Bowker & Raja, 2011). Moreover, when involved in social interactions, they can demonstrate adequate social skills and be engaged similarly as their sociable peers (Asendorpf & Meier, 1993).

There are different, and even conflictual, arguments in the literature about the nature of unsociability in Western children. On the one hand, the theories that emphasize the role of social interactions in social and cognitive development (e.g., Cooley, 1902; Hartup, 1996; Piaget, 1932) suggest that unsociable children may miss out on the opportunity to learn from others and to practice their interpersonal skills, such as cooperation, negotiation, and problem‐solving, in social settings. As a result, these children may develop inappropriate behaviors, lack social support systems, and fall behind others in social and cognitive areas. In this sense, the developmental outcomes of unsociability may be similar to those of shyness. On the other hand, children in Western societies are expected and encouraged to develop autonomy and self‐direction (Grolnick, 2012; Maccoby & Martin, 1983; Ryan & Deci, 2000). Unsociability as a form of preference for solitude may be regarded as an autonomous expression of personal choice (Coplan & Armer, 2007; Leary et al., 2003). Thus, unlike shyness, unsociability may not indicate social failure or incompetence. Indeed, unsociability in early childhood, which is mostly indexed by solitary, quiet behavior (i.e., quiet exploration and solitary constructive activities) in social settings, is regarded as relatively benign (Coplan et al., 2018; Rubin, 1982). In adolescence and adulthood, engagement in solitary activities or spending time alone for self‐exploration, self‐reflection, or stress reduction is also thought to have benefits for well‐being (e.g., Goossens, 2014; Larson, 1997; Leary et al., 2003; Long & Averill, 2003).

The results of limited studies seem to show that unsociability is not necessarily associated with social and psychological problems (e.g., Asendorpf & Meier, 1993; Coplan et al., 2019; Harrist et al., 1997). Coplan et al. (2004) found that unsociability was related to longer attention span and less negative emotionality than shyness. Harrist et al. (1997) found no significant differences between unsociable children and nonwithdrawn children; both were more competent than shy children on social‐information processing tasks and teacher‐rated social performance. Similarly, Coplan and Weeks (2010) found that unsociable children reported more positive school attitudes than others. Some findings indicate that relative to sociable children, unsocial children are viewed as less likable by others (e.g., Coplan et al., 2007; Coplan & Weeks, 2010). However, it appears to be the case that unsociable children are not more vulnerable than others to internalizing problems, such as depressive symptoms, loneliness, and social anxiety (Coplan et al., 2004; Coplan & Weeks, 2010; Coplan et al., 2013). Nelson and Evans‐Stout (2019) found that teachers viewed unsociability as indicated by solitary‐passive behavior as less undesirable than shy‐reticent behavior in kindergarten and elementary school children. Bowker and Raja (2011) argue that because they do not actively avoid opportunities for peer engagement, unsociable children may get just enough social interaction, which may allow them to avoid potential harms associated with social isolation. From a cultural perspective, the relatively “benign” outcomes of unsociability in Western children are inevitably related to the values of autonomy, self‐decision, and personal choice in the society. These values help reduce negative social evaluation and associated stress and distress that unsociable children experience.

In societies where interdependence and group affiliation are highly emphasized (Chen, 2010; Greenfield et al., 2006), individuals are encouraged to develop social connectedness and integration and commitment to the group. Children and adolescents are required to function in group context and to contribute to group well‐being (Chen & French, 2008). Unsociability and preference for solitude are inconsistent with group orientation and are likely to lead to social disapproval in these societies. Unlike shy children, who have the desire to interact with peers but the social approach tendency is inhibited by social fear and anxiety (Asendorpf, 1991), unsociable children display a lack of intention to interact with, and maintain distance from, others. Peers are likely to recognize the behavioral manifestations of shy and unsociable children derived from different social motivations and react differently to them in interactions. In the group‐oriented context, whereas shy children may obtain support from others to engage in interactions, unsociable children may be perceived as deviant, selfish, and anti‐collective and thus may be isolated from others and have low social status (Chen et al., 2011). The undesirable social experiences of unsociable children in turn may result in school difficulties and emotional problems, such as social dissatisfaction and feelings of depression.

Studies conducted in Chinese societies with Confucian collectivism as the primary principle in guiding social activities have consistently shown links between unsociability and pervasive adjustment problems (e.g., Coplan et al., 2016; Chen et al., 2011; Liu et al., 2015). Coplan and colleagues (2016), for example, found in China that, compared with “average” children, unsociable children were more likely to be isolated and victimized by peers. Moreover, unsociable children were rated by teachers as less competent, had more learning problems, and reported higher levels of loneliness and depression. In a sample of Chinese school age youth, Zhang and Eggum‐Wilkens (2018) found that peer‐reported unsociability was associated with peer rejection and exclusion and school maladjustment. However, self‐reported sociability was not associated with problems. The authors suggest that unsociable Chinese adolescents have difficulties with peers and at school only when they are perceived as unsociable by peers. It is likely that peer perceptions and evaluations serve as important mediators in the associations between unsociability and social and school problems.

An interesting issue is how the functional meaning of unsociability in children may be influenced by macro‐level social, economic, and cultural changes. Chen et al. (2011) found in a rural region of China where traditional values have been maintained that, whereas shyness was generally associated with indexes of adjustment (e.g., social status, teacher‐rated competence, and academic achievement), unsociability was associated with peer rejection and broad school and psychological problems (e.g., teacher‐rated learning problems, depression) in school‐age children. As individual independence and autonomy are increasingly encouraged in recent years in urban China, shyness in childhood has been found to be associated with maladaptive outcomes (e.g., Chen et al., 2005; Liu et al., 2015). The social change, however, has not evidently affected the meaning of unsociability; unsociable urban Chinese children still experience more adjustment difficulties than their counterparts in Canada (Liu et al., 2015). Researchers should investigate whether unsociable children become better adjusted as China continues to change toward a more urbanized society in the future.