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Distraught parents frequently seek advice about how to tell their other children. Responses should be tailored to the age of the child in question, to the child's level of understanding, and against a background of the religious and cultural beliefs of the family. A key principle to appreciate is that having reached the stage of cognizance regarding the loss, a child needs and seeks personal security. Hence, the parents' attention should be focused on love, warmth, and repetitive reassurance, especially about (possibly) unstated feelings of previous wrongdoing and personal culpability. Advice about grieving together instead of being and feeling overwhelmed in front of their children is also helpful. Focusing on the children's thoughts and activities is beneficial rather than lapsing into a state of emotional paralysis, which can only serve to aggravate the family's psychodynamics adversely.