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When we experience grief, we want someone else to help us because we feel that we can’t do anything on our own. We hope maybe someone else can. We cry out in pain for someone to do it for us. Our bodies have a little more energy than in apathy, but the energy is so contracted that it is painful. Our minds are a little less cluttered than in apathy, but they are still very noisy and opaque. We picture our pain and loss, often getting lost in these pictures. Our thoughts revolve around how much we hurt, what we have lost, and whether we can get anyone else to help us.

When Sarah’s aging mother had a stroke, she realized they had turned a corner. She felt extremely sad to be losing the relationship they used to enjoy when her mom was vital and capable. Because of how much help her mom now required, it was as though Sarah were taking on the role of being the parent while her mom was becoming the child, at least part of the time. Making a decision one day, Sarah dove into her grief and found a measure of peace. She understood that, as long as she used the Sedona Method, she could allow herself to grieve appropriately instead of being stuck in a constant state of sorrow. Although there was sadness, and the unknown, there was also a feeling of great relief and movement. Releasing made it easier to welcome the changes in her mother.

Words and phrases that describe grief:

• Abandoned

• Abused

• Accused

• Anguished

• Ashamed

• Betrayed

• Blue

• Cheated

• Despair

• Disappointed

• Distraught

• Embarrassed

• Forgotten

• Guilty

• Heartbroken

• Heartache

• Heartsick

• Helpless

• Hurt

• If only

• Ignored

• Inadequate

• Inconsolable

• It’s not fair

• Left out

• Longing

• Loss

• Melancholy

• Misunderstood

• Mourning

• Neglected

• Nobody cares

• Nobody loves me

• Nostalgia

• Passed over

• Pity

• Poor me

• Regret

• Rejected

• Remorse

• Sadness

• Sorrow

• Tearful

• Tormented

• Torn

• Tortured

• Unhappy

• Unloved

• Unwanted

• Vulnerable

• Why me

• Wounded

Allow yourself to take a few moments and remember the last time that you or someone you know experienced grief. Then give yourself a few moments just to be with whatever feeling this memory brings up in this moment.

Could you allow yourself to welcome this feeling as best you can?

Could you allow yourself to let it go?

Would you let it go?

When?

Before you go on, repeat the releasing process a few more times. Keep at it until you feel as though you are able to let go of some or all of what you are feeling, and then continue with the next emotion.