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Life example

Revaz, an inexperienced boy of 20, had been dating 18-year-old virgin Anna for two years. They only kissed a couple of times. And, finally, their wedding day came… On the eve of the first wedding night, Revaz's father sat down for a “master class” in front of the television – to watch porn and talk about sex. The guy asked in surprise: “Dad, why are they screaming like that?” – “It's from pleasure,” he answered.

On the wedding night, Revaz passionately attacked his young wife. He perceived her screams as an expression of pleasure. The blood that appeared did not embarrass him either – he was sure that she was a virgin. After the third episode, she calmed down and no longer screamed – she died. In the forensic report, it was recorded that "as a result of a woman's vaginal spasm, which was overcome by a man by force, a rupture of the vagina was formed."

The young husband didn’t know that the girl also had hemophilia.

Is it a sad story? Yes, it is. And the same mistake – they were talking but not about that… So, if you want your first experience to be positive, you need to do the following:

– I repeat, you should know the nuances related to the health of your bride;

– treat her like a crystal vase: gently and carefully.

The debut of your sexual relationship will be remembered forever, so you should take care of the details: scented candles, quiet music, tasty wine, new bed linen.

The main thing is not to be led to her tricks, even if she is rushing you so that she won’t be able to “average” your sexual relationship. Know that women don't leave such a man, they always remember him, they think about him and are very afraid of losing.

The woman has a great need for tenderness. Drawing pictures full of sexual fantasies, she imagines caresses, kisses and gentle touches in her head. It relaxes a woman and gives her pleasure, which she likes to remember later.

Remember about contraception! Condoms and lubricants should always be kept handy – this is very important because your sex must be protected. Prevent an unplanned pregnancy, while you are not sure. It shouldn’t happen like in that joke: "One awkward movement – and you are a father." And do not hope for her in this matter: you are the main “giver”, and it depends on you whether the child will be or not. It’s unusually to read, right? However, you must admit, this is true!

Carefully follow your beloved, for her mood and well-being. If she is not ready, postpone your debut until tomorrow, she will definitely appreciate it. You must be alone! No one should hear or see you. Close the door so that no one can enter.

It is assumed that you have to live a long and happy life with this person, take it as a rule to study her menstrual cycle, and also to find out during what period she is ovulating: you will understand her mood swings (women usually become more irritable several days before menstruation and during it). Moreover, you also need to know what day she is ovulating, if you don’t want to get a surprise in nine months.

As it was mentioned above, the harmony of marital relations to a certain extent depends on the motives of the future spouses to marry. Of course, it is believed that the overwhelming majority of men and women enter into a marriage union for love, but the strength of this feeling changes with age and under the influence of all sorts of adversities, therefore the main task is its preservation and multiplication. Key moments in life such as the sexual debut leave wonderful memories, and it will be an additional “bridge” for female love, so that it will not disappear.

And stop talking about her! Let’s talk about you. It usually happens that the first sex or the sex with a new partner is very confused and fast. It’s because of your hormones that are in a hurry to take advantage of the situation. As a result, you have premature ejaculation, if you just touch a naked woman.

So, what do you do? Should you be led by your hormones? Of course, but don’t do it spontaneously, try to prepare. In order not to become a “minute man” and not to look inexperienced and funny in the eyes of your partner, try to create suitable conditions for yourself:

– A glass of wine (do not overdo with alcohol, it is also a common mistake for inexperienced guys!);

– a darkened room (but not total darkness, you must see a partner);

– do not rush! Petting should be slow and gentle, it is necessary to increase the pace slowly, carefully listening to yourself. The main thing is to look at all her body kissing and do not hesitate to ask her for help if it is required;

– do not forget about the condom! You will not only protect yourself and your girlfriend from an unwanted pregnancy, but you can at least slightly reduce the sensitivity of the penis, which will be very useful in this case;

– do not forget about the lubricant: apply it on the condom after putting it on, this will add ease of sliding to you (and this is what prolongs sexual intercourse!) And it will add pleasant sensations to the girl.

If you have no experience at all or it is insufficient or unsuccessful, do not dwell on it, this is not a reason for complexes! Everything will come with time.

And I also want to add: you should know that the size and structure of the partner's vagina adapts a bit to a regular partner after a while, so your sex will be more and more pleasant for both of you each time, and let you do it as in that joke:

– You know, I want to admit to you, I have no experience at all, I am a virgin! I’ve dreamed only of you and saved myself for you!

I don’t even know what to tell you… Actually, I always like experienced men.

– And I am a very experienced virgin!