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It is normal to feel a little anxious when you go to meet your first family. It may help you to remember that the family is probably nervous too. So are all of your fel low practicum students or interns. Start with your courage. You have met people before, and you know how to bring forth your interest, your friendliness, and your warmth. Think about what you do when you want to welcome someone into your home. The same qualities will serve you well when you meet families for the first time. Take a deep breath and use your eyes and ears to really take in each person.

At first, be willing to listen and engage the family without having to change it. Be patient. If you get too concerned about what theories or techniques might inform your work, you will lose contact with the family. Start by being as fully present as possible. Ask yourself what you are hearing and what you are seeing. Respond empathically. Let each person know that you hear and understand them. You can trust things to unfold.