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“The courage to be imperfect” is a phrase coined by Sofie Lazersfeld and used extensively by Rudolf Dreikurs and other Adlerians (Terner & Pew, 1978). This kind of courage comes from accepting ourselves as human beings who are not perfect and who make mistakes. Effective counselors often trust their intuition or make guesses and observations that they hope will be useful in family work. Reasonable risks are part of the work we do. They are also the foundation for the mistakes we make. If you are going to learn to be an effective family practitioner, you are going to make mistakes. They cannot be avoided. Having the courage to be imperfect is having the courage to be human—and to be ourselves. It is having the courage to be wrong and admit error; to experience the disagreement of others; and to reconsider and correct faulty impressions, interpretations, or the language of our interventions.