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“Normal sex.” Clear what it is, right?

Think again.

India, Ghana, Tunisia, Mali…dozens of countries, hundreds of cultures, and everywhere I go, people are curious.

“What do they wear in Ladakh?” they ask.

“What’s the food like in Ghana?”

“What do they do for fun in Suriname?”

Just one thing they never ask—because they figure sex is the same everywhere.

I know better…

I learned about weird sex at Harvard University. Not from a dirty old professor or horny undergrad, but from Tozzer, the Harvard Anthropology Library. I sat, drowsy and bored in the dim, silent Tozzer Reading Room. What demon convinced me to take anthropology? Pentadactylism…avunculocal…durophagy… Who makes up this crap?

Suddenly, my eyes shot open.

Hey, I’m from New Jersey. I know about weird sex. But…

Husbands who fret if their wives don’t have enough lovers…? Teenagers required to take as many sex partners as possible…? Societies where all agree that every man should have a male lover…?

It was a goldmine of screwball sex, flipped-out mating. All hidden under stodgy anthropology garble.

It became a hobby. Fascinating, hilarious, astounding and—let’s face it—weird sex and gender rules and roles around the world. I could send people into hysterics, shock the most jaded, amaze the sophisticates.

“You’re kidding!” friends would scream. “I don’t believe it! They couldn’t!”

But they could. They did. They do.

Sure, sometimes it seemed too much. But I don’t relish eating insects either, though millions of people love them. For me, the lesson was: no one way works for everyone—even for sex. If it doesn’t harm or endanger anyone, no need to adopt the differences, but do respect them. Just be smart. It really does take a village to raise a child.

So if your lover complains your sex-play should be in Ripley’s Believe It Or Not...

Your mom reveals her stash of kinky sex toys…

Dad’s been modeling your favorite dress…

Rejoice!

There are places in this world where your most depraved fantasies would be considered tame. Where Grandma’s idea of normal would drive the neighbors wild. Where your most wanton desires are simply part of daily life.

When it comes to sex, our human family is endlessly inventive. So celebrate! Make your own best rules. How about this one: Sex is fun!