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Mary is a perfectionist who has (subconsciously) established standards for herself to decide what is acceptable and what is not — to decide how things should be and how they should not. Being furious, for example, is not acceptable. She sees fury as an undesirable emotion and thus suppresses her rage. Instead, Mary is often annoyed — when other people don’t behave the way they should or the way it was agreed on or the way you'd expect any responsible adult to act. To make sure that Mary herself knows explicitly that she’s behaving properly or doing something well, she sets the bar high. When you do something perfectly, after all, you don’t run the risk of being wrong and being criticized, because being criticized definitely bothers Mary. She is so critical toward herself because she sees it as a way to prevent herself from doing something wrong. Her attention is thus directed toward perfectionism and avoiding mistakes. As a result, Mary has a nose for improving whatever can be improved.